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writes:Hello everyone! I just want to say before I bring anything up, that this was a decision in the works for a long time, and it's set in stone for me.So, I'm 16 years old, and I have made the decision that I want to become a nudist. Or naturist, if you wish to call it that. There's only a few problems: starting somewhere, and telling my family.I've read stories of people who just decided to be nude around the house one day, and it went well, but there was a pattern. They were all from girls in houses with only women. I'm a guy that lives in with my older brother (he's 28) and my mom and dad. I have two sisters that are 22 and live away from home.I've decided that I have one friend I can tell, and I plan on telling her (she's a lesbian, does that count for anything?) On Saturday. I'm telling her first because I'm too afraid to tell my family.A lot of that comes down to my embarrassment of my dad finding out. He drinks, and recently he's been coming home from work and getting hammered. I'm afraid he'll make fun of me for it. My sister (that actually visits) has three little girls, ages 3, 2, and 1. I'm afraid she won't let me see them anymore. Not to mention there's a lot of stress in my house already.My mom is losing her hair to chemotherapy, and she's sad (rightfully so) and my dad... I already explained. My brother, though he lives with us, he rents the basement, and I spend most of my time in my room, so we don't see each other much, but I'm still closer to him than I am most of my family.So my question is, how do I go about telling my family my choice? I want them to support my decision. I dislike wearing clothing, it feels restrictive and I have a secret hate for clothing when it isn't necessary. I spend as much time naked as possible, and I believe my friend and hopefully her mom are okay with my choice, maybe even letting me do it at their house, though that's a long shot.I need advice on how to go about this. There's nothing sexual behind it, it's purely how I choose to live. Except I can't live that way.My alternative is wait till I'm 18 and move out asap, but even then I run into problems. Affording a place to stay. That's a different topic though.If anyone has any experience in this, or any links somewhere with stories about how to do this. Anything is appreciated, thanks everyone!
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (12 November 2015):
It sounds like enough drama is going on in your house. Wait until you are in your own place to practice nudism. Your mom certainly must have her worries with chemo and cancer, and your dad will probably drink even more. I would not be ashamed or afraid to tenderly bring up the topic to family members so that you can feel them out on this. But it would be extremely selfish...yes, selfish, selfish, selfish to push this on them, and would likely alienate you from at least several if not all of them. You are just in a very bad time and place to do this.
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reader, haveiafuture  +, writes (12 November 2015):
I can't advise you how to break it to your family but I can tell you where to start. Go to a nudist/naturist resort. There you will find similar minded people. Hopefully you can relate to them. Might be a better idea than going nude at your friends house.
Some people are fine keeping their lifestyles to themselves, others feel better when they don't hide any secrets from their close ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2015): It is impossible to be nude 24/7 because you have to go out to work to earn your living but you can do it most of the time when you are old enough and have your own place. Actually you would be surprised to know how many people prefer to go nude inside their their homes during the summer heat. I say wait till you are independent of your family and you have your own place or better still get an employment in a nudest camp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2015): hello dear nudie, there is nothing wrong with being nude in your own room of your own house but the law requires you to wear clothing that covers your genitals in company unless you very specifically join a nudist colony in a warm place where you can throw all your clothes to the wind and let your bits all hang out.
Plus you will end up behind prison bars if you parade starkers in front of your sisters children.
It could go like this "whats those bits hanging out?"
"Oh thats my willie and balls and you can see them now that i'm a nudist !"
Innocent enough you might think! But no!
When those kids get to school theyre gonna mention one day that they seen their uncles willie all the time !
Thats just the start of it.
Child protection gets called in.
Kids get taken away.
Sister gets xmas nutcrackers and says she will crack those nuts in half.
You see what might seem like a good idea at sixteen can seem like a very dumb idea by seventeen.
The problem is that you are somewhere between a rock and a hard place and im certain home is an uncomfortable place to be with dad hitting the bottle and mum fighting for her life on chemo.
Throwing off your clothes like your troubles might seem like a good idea but it is a trap.
One that will get you a lot of rejection at this young age because i dont see your lesbian friends mum allowing you to lounge round the house starkers.
Dad wont take to it either and im not sure mum will notice.
So your need for peace,love and attention will end up as a long lonely road to pneumonia, but then again maybe you are trying to compete with your parents for the most seriously ill award.
Sixteen is a wonderful age and i am sure many others have come up with the wierd and wonderful, but my main advice to you is to not hoover in the nude and if you do, then for goodness sake dont make the mistake of hoovering your willy because it will put you in A&E with a nozzle on your willy and noone believes the doing the housework tale about that anymore.
If you must be wacky just slip a sturdy codpiece down your trousers to protect your bits.
It would be difficult to tell someone off for the bulge in their pants wouldnt it and would certainly raise the odd eyebrow.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 November 2015):
 Whether or not your friend is a lesbian I think it's irrelevant, though she might herself have heard all kind of crap for her sexual orientation, however. One thing is wanting to be a nudist - go nude people! But that only works if you GIVE the people a choice around you to NOT want to live with a nude person 24/7. So yes, you might have to wait till 18 Or when you move out, if you parents aren't willing to deal with that. And from what you are writing I think your MOM has enough on her plate without having to worry about her son all of a sudden wanting to be a nudist.
Feeling comfortable is in own skin is great. However that doesn't mean everyone around you are too. And in this case, you DO have to consider others as you LIVE under your parents roof. Doesn't mean you can't designate your room to a "nudist zone", but that ALSO mean when your little nieces are over visiting you either stay in your LOCKED room or... you put on clothes. Because at their ages they can't speak up, and your sister as THEIR mom may not want to expose her kiddies to a naked dude, even IF this naked dude is her brother.
http://www.naturistplace.com/nudeusa.htm
Might also give you some ideas and/or advice.
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