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writes:As a result of coming to a better understanding of some behaviours/thought processes that have not helped me in the past, I am at at the point where I feel I am ready to make some positive changes in my life. In other words, I'm sick and tired of being stuck in the past. It is time to let go. I do get along well with quite a lot of people and am good at focusing on developing myself as a person. But, I've kind of wondered why I am not getting what I wanted from some relationships. These behaviours/thought processes have played a role and include: -Being quite judgemental and holding onto resentment for some quite insignificant things - Letting negativity and insecurity (lack of self belief) get in the way of some friendships feeling like I put people on pedestal/that I am not as good as them- Letting the "nice guy" tag get the better of me, leading to a victim mentality - Admittedly, thinking that I had a lot of friends and expecting things to happen for me then falling into a negative mindset/isolating myself when something didn't happen.It is time to change this. I realise that I have had a lack of self respect for both myself and others around me. I know that I am not the best person in the world and not everyone is going to like me. I just want to let go of things that have happened in the past and make some positive changes for the future i.e having self belief, getting fitter, getting more from some relationships, not caring what people think, learning to let go of resentment and hopefully getting a girlfriend at some point.Any tips/insights/help would very much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): I agree with tisha yoga meditation grouping in with people, maybe an old friend might pop in and cheer you up, could also just be a bad day and surprises do happen!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2016): "Life doesn't have to be so hard."
Pick up the book called "Excess Baggage" by Judith Sills. You will get a lot out of it.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 February 2016):
 Read Eckert Tolle's books.
Practice mindfulness. Yoga, meditation, chanting, exercise are some examples of how to connect mind with body. Also a great way to meet people who are positive, non-judgmental, supportive and frankly, healing.
Take yourself on an "Outward Bound" type of self-discovery journey. I don't know if that's in Australia but you can google it and see if there are programs that reacquaint you with your inner strength.
And good on you for taking positive steps.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (24 February 2016):
Welcome to the wonderful world of ADWARENESS OF SELF.You have learned so much about the inner you re your good and bad points.NOW is the time to reap the rewards .Just enjoy life as a more positive you Remember the past is dead and gone-today we enjoy and hope for a bright tomorrow.Best wishes for your now and the future.NORA B.
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