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writes:Please help as soon as possible please.Well the thing is, i have a boyfriend and i do love him so much, but the thing is its a secret relationship and he has told a lot of people and he's making it dead obvious by putting it on his msn name that he(L)me, and on his personal message he has the date of when we got together or how long we have been together and i said i just want to keep it a secret for a bit and i explained to him why.The thing is he tells so many people and more and more poeple are fnding out, he also told a teacher and he promised to keep it secret but he did shout it out the other day infront of the one person i do not want to know, and then i gave him an evil stare and he realised what he did and walked off,THAT WAS CLOSE!And also he keeps trying to make me tell my mother when to be fairly honest i think she geussed, because he is around my house every day so it's obvious to her. i just dont have the nerves to tell her to her face because i am shy.Also he trys to get me to tell every one and tells me to tell people over and over every day and i have explained why i wont to keep it a bit quiet for a bit just a little while, but every time he tells me to tell people i feel annoyed, so very annoyed that hes kind of forcing me to tell people and its sort of making me want to end it with him so i wont have to tell people, but i really dont want to incase i miss him, and i love him and im scared incase i make the wrong choice, also i sorta like his mate, but i liked his mate way before i got with him and i liked his mate alot, so i geuss i never got fully over his mate but i did have strong feelings for him so its not my fault if some are still there, and i feel really bad because this is his best mate i like while going out with him, i dont properly love his mate there are just some old feelings for him, but i do properly love my boyfriend, but i am loosing interest but im scared of ending it becaus i no i still love him and dont want to make a mistake, but i am loosing interest when he always tells people and he just bores me sometimes.What should i do? Is it right to stay with him even though i still have little feelings for his best mate?Even though he really irritates me some times, and forces me to tell people when i explained why i dont want to, should i stay with him ?Ty so much for your time, i thought i could sort this out by my self but i supose i cant please advice please :D it will be much apriciated
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reader, highlandflower  +, writes (22 January 2009):
Maybe he's just proud and excited that you guys are dating, and he wants to tell the world. Thats how it is with my boyfriend. I think you need to sit down, and just talk with him, and say "look, just chill. I want to take this slow, and if your not willing to respect my wishes, than i dont think your the guy for me".
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