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writes:I really want to have sex with they man i love, but i am so self conscious of my body, he is really in shape. and im not, im not an obese girl, a am slighty thicker than some. most guys like my shape, but i dont, i have ugly light strecth marks on my stomach and sides. and im so self consious, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, JsaiyaSavannah +, writes (19 February 2009):
JsaiyaSavannah is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all. I will try to stick to my new diet and use the cover up, jus as you suggested, i hope our first time is magical and intense, and not jus me being intense that he sees my imperfections and gets turned off
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reader, Firefighter's Wife 09 +, writes (18 February 2009):
Its really hard isn't it!?
I have horrible stretch marks on my tummy and hips and the insides of my thighs. It has always bothered me and probably always will! Even though I know my husband loves me very much.
There are many things you can try to make you feel better though. Despite what some people say, you can't just get over it. Like you, I'm not a skinny person but I'm not very large either. When I'm not pregnant lol I wear a size 16 pants.
Self Tanner is awesome! It can help to hide the stretch marks, especially if they are light.
Depending on how many you have, you can try using mederma its a stretch mark cream that makes them disappear. It does cost a little bit for a small tube though.
Also try the palmers cocoa butter lotion. It helps to make the skin more elastic, if used like it says to on the bottle. And it will help prevent future marks from showing up.
Doing it in the dark is always a plus, but try to light some candles in the corner of the room away from you. It gives enough light to see each other but not enough for details.
I hope this helps. Like I said, if he really loves you, it won't bother him. Its going to take you some time to get super comfortable with him though. Just be patient and soon you will be doing it with a spotlight on!
If you ever need to talk I'm always here!
Good luck and have fun! I hope it works out good for you!!!
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (18 February 2009):
I know how you feel i have stretch marks all over my stomach and sides and my boyfriend loves me the way I am. If he truly loves you he will love all of you. Start with foreplay and take off your shirt if he is loving and sensitive then make love to him. If he is a jerk about it dump him and find someone new. At least if that happens then you didn't have sex with him and that will help you self esteem if it does end.
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reader, Lulu-Lemons  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 If you love him, and you've been with him long enough to really love him, he should love you back. If he does love you, he won't care. I like to think real love transcends all those superficial things and goes someplace where two people can be totally together and complete one another. (But I've been told I'm a hopeless romantic...)
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): get over it.
make love to him, and make it amazing.
let go of your insecurities.
if he doesn't like something, he'll probably let you know.
if you love him, you've had to have been seeing him for a while.
he's still with you.
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