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writes:I currently attend the University of Kansas where I met my TA for one of my classes, I noticed how beautiful she was. She's Brazilian and I'm Latino (no difference I suppose), so we know a fair amount of Spanish. We got along great, I was the first name she memorized, would always credit on how well of a job I'd do on assignments as well as during class discussions.She'd tease me often because of how us Latinos are a rare breed at this school, and would always flash this beautiful smile at me sometimes. She and I would often have one-on-one conversations, most often about school and my transition to it. She honestly doesn't even look 3 years older than me. If I didn't had her as a TA, I honestly would have saw her as another undergraduate student.This has gone on for months now, and as much as I don't want to admit this, since she's in a position of power and all, I feel like I want to get to know this woman better, not as a TA, but as a person. As much as I like the subject, I can't tell whether it's the subject or the thought of seeing here that excites me for class.I decided to wait until I've completed the class to make any sort of friendly move on her. She's a very beautiful woman, both in and out, and I want to get to know her better and see if dating is possible. How should I go about approaching this?*Before you ask, she would occasionally talk about her personal life during class and has not ONCE mentioned anything that would suggest she's dating (no boyfriend, no special guy. etc). The only guys she ever mentioned were just friends of hers, or fellow TA's of the class. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Also, don't let my name fool you. I am a guy.Thanks.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Just be confident and polite. Ask her about Brazil, about her education background, favourite profs -- anything at all, really, but stay focussed on *her*. Sounds like you're on the right track. :)
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reader, AndreaJV08 +, writes (16 November 2010):
AndreaJV08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOur main class has over 400 students, so the TA's are there to help divide that number into individual sections held in different sanctions around campus. The professor lectures the class twice a week, while the TA's, during the discussion sections held on a different day, help us process and discuss what was gone over at lecture. Hopefully that makes sense. During the discussion sections, the TA's basically assume the role as a teacher, so they do have power over our discussion grade, while the professor has power over our lecture grade. 2 parts for one class. That's why I'm hesitant to ask her out now while I'm still taking the course.
But you're right. I'm still continuing to get to know her, and hopefully ask her out for a friendly cup of coffee or lunch. I have a 2-hour appointment with her this Thursday, just to talk about the class, discussion, and whatever else. What sort of topics should I bring up in order to get to know her better, without sounding desperate or too anxious?
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (16 November 2010):
I'm not sure that exactly being a TA involves where you are. When I was a TA I wasn't in a position of power over anyone in any meaningful way, so a relationship wouldn't have been an issue. Regardless, the course is probably done in five or so weeks, so there's no problem in laying the ground work now -- continuing to get to know her as you have been. Shortly before the end of the course you could ask her out for coffee or lunch and see where it leads.
Good luck.
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reader, AndreaJV08 +, writes (16 November 2010):
AndreaJV08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOn a side note: I'm 20, and she's 22 (23 next week), so I don't think that's much of an age difference, at least not for me. Just thought I throw that in there.
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