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writes:So here's my situation my girlfriend and I recently broke up like 2 weeks ago and apparently after a few days of us being seperated she's already began dating someone else that she met when she was still with me. Suffice to say this isn't a good feeling. I would really like to get back with her eventually but i'm wondering how I should approach this situation. Should I give her time like maybe a month or so to spend time with her new boyfriend or should I just plead with her to take me back? or should I just be a friend to her and talk to her every so often in the day? I know this sounds desperate but I was planning on marrying her before we broke up.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (29 September 2010):
If you broke up, she is no longer your girlfriend.
If she is dating already...good. Better now, that after you got married.
She is only one girl in a world full of them...in fact, I think there are 5 females to every one guy.
So...happy hunting.
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reader, shorty80  +, writes (29 September 2010):
Tough one, i know how you feel, you spend every minute thinking about her, It would be best to try and get things sorted out fairly quick, but strong feelings for someone just dont disappear, everyone will advise you to move on, forget about her etc, but you are not able to, so i suppose the best advice is try and do everything you can to get her back, if you dont you will always say to yourself what if i had have tried this or that, i wouldnt beg for her forgivness though, maybe try and become friends with her again, and work from there, there really is no easy way out with relationships, they hurt, some people will give you a second chance, others will not even if they want to deep down themselves out of pride and pure stubbornness. You would often wonder if it really is worth falling in love, because it usually ends in a disaster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Hey!
Look man...this happened to me too. She was clearly interested in this other guy and perhaps she maybe lied to you for reasons to split. My ex gf was honest when Id found out about the other f***. She ended up marrying him after 8 months. After we split, I was pissed and like "I want her back". But that feeling went away after a bit, maybe about a month or so. Why? I reasoned logically why things happened the way they did.
My advice:
I understand the emotion involved bud. I can see thats damn tough. Stay away from her. Dont go chasing after her. If she comes back, then talk. But if she does that I wouldnt trust her as its clear she cant make a decision if shes wobbling back and forth. I dont have time for women like that. Find yourself bro. Gain some independence and focus on yourself. Heal too...and talk about this with ppl like on here. Itll help you sort thru the mess and realize that what happened may be a good thing. Who cares if youre alone? I get the drift this woman needs to be with someone in order to be happy cause she didnt recover from ur relationship and that to me is a huge warning sign for you as a guy who'd like to marry as it shows emotional instability, possible trust issues, and a very low self esteem...stuff that YOU have my man. Move on bud. PM me any time if you need to chat or vent on this. I know how s*** goes. all my best :)
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