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writes:I want to follow my dreams, but i don't want to go it alone. I really enjoyed studying my course, but now that i'm finished and qualified, i want to do another one to get better at what i do and hopefully get a better job. But the course i want to do is in the uk and i'm all the way in nz (no courses like it in my country), and another thing holding me back is my boyfriend. he doesn't want me to do this course because it would cost too much and interfere with the plans we have already, but i'm so passionate about this and i really enjoy learning new things and traveling, but he said i have to choose between him or my career. but i don't want to be selfish and put myslef before my love. he is my soulmate and i could never imagine life without him. i reeeeally want to do this and the university even said they will accept me, but i have money and my boyfriend against me and my passion encouraging me. thats two to one. what do i do? i don't want to be stuck in a 9 to 5 job with crappy pay for the rest of my life but i don't want to be alone either, please help
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
Sorry but if your boyfriend isn't willing to let you go off and do something amazing for a year because it inconveniences HIS plans then he's a pretty rubbish boyfriend.
Your career is a life long thing. Boyfriends very rarely lest more than a few years.
I felt the same about my boyfriend at your age but if I had not gone to uni and was stuck in a crappy job now because of him I would have been so incredibly miserable.
Follow your dreams and if he really is your soul mate as he claims to be then he'll be willing to put a bit of effort in and put up with a long distance relationship for a while.
As for money... You just have to get a job and a second one and work like CRAZY for a few months to see what you can do. Then you can work when you get here to the UK if you have a student visa.
Good Luck!! xx
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