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writes:hey guys reallly need help now... im 20 years old and my boyfriend is 23 which is really not to bad however we have been together offically 6 months but i think hes getting a bit to ahead of himself... he introduced me to his parents and i spent christmas morning there.. i feel slightly worried... i really love him and he really loves me but i feel like its a bit too much.. hes always said to me that he wants to marry me and that the next person he gets with (that being me) is the person hes gnna marry.... its quite dawnting im only 20 but he is really looking... im just confuseddd...plus i know my mum wont be happy if i marry him i know that... i dont wnnna hurt him and i doo wnna be with him im just not sure ... please advice me what to do
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reader, This_face  +, writes (25 December 2008):
Let him know how you feel. You're only 20 and you said you are not ready, so make sure he understands that although you care for him you need to take things slower and get life sorted out. Marriage should never be rushed, in my opinion you are right. Make sure he knows how glad you are to have met his family and that you consider his actions very kind. Just be sure to make sure he doesn't preasure you to do something you are not ready to do. If you explain to him, maybe he will understand and be willing to slow it down a notch or two. Give him a glimmer of hope though, so that he doesn't feel rejected, and continue to discuss the topic in the future in order to move forward in your relationship. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut the issue is i know we can never get married... i do love him but i love my mum more and her wishes... she would not be happy if i get married to him...
not only that but he wants to live with his parents and im not sure if that could work... please helpppp
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 December 2008):
Well just keep telling him about how much you love him but how you really want to be at LEAST 25 before you get engaged.
Talk about how you want a HUGE engagement ring and not one of the crappy specks of glass that people your age buy for eachother.
Tell him you want to have a good job and a place and live with the person you marry for a couple of years before getting engaged.
Make it clear that who ever you marry will just have to take it slow as you would hate to feel rushed into a commitment.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): enjoy what you have if he's going fast that's a good thing it just show you that he loves you and cares for you most guy go to slow but if he on a fast lane enjoy the ride....xoxo
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