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*assageismylife
writes:ok, is it just me or can me and women not be friends unless the have some sexual intercourse? i have this guy whom i attended college with and he is an awesome person, but everytime we hang out its like all he is worried about is getting a little action. i get frustrated at him cause all i want is to be friends with him. He as told me numerous times that he cares about me and doesnt think that he is good enough for me, but what he doesnt understand is all i want out of this is a friendship. is all he wanting is a little action or what? thanks for the advice!! Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Hi
The answer to your question is yes woman and men can be friends without intercourse,it seem that you need a friend more than a lover, which is ok, you really need to talk to him and tell him that at present you see him as a very close friend, and that you are not at this time looking to have a sexual relationship with him, he may take this badly but given time if he is mature enough then he should realize that your friendship should mean more that just a sexual experience.
hope this will help you.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (18 January 2008):
 For some reason women think they can meet random guys and just be friends and nothing else ever from day one. The problem is, is if a guy takes time to talk to you in the first place that meens he has in some way found you attractive and is interested. Thats not saying you cant ever have guys as just friends. My best friend of 16 years is a woman. We started out being BF/GF in high school. Now we are both happy with just friendship. Also though, whenever a man is single he is out looking in a way not to be single. And if a man is taken then he probably wouldn't waste any time getting to know another woman anyway unless he is unhappy with what he's got. In other words, men arent interested in making friends, (usually). I know this guy right now that when he started talking to his later on wife, she told him one day,"lets just be friends.". His response was not rude but clear and honest," I already have enough friends".
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Tell him you really like him as a friend and wouldn't want to lose his friendship but that you aren't attracted to him. Check whether he can accept that and still be friends. If not, you may need to cut off from him.
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