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writes: I'm 13 and like a girl who is 12. I'm sure she likes me because her friend said she did when we were chatting online altogether (me, the girl I like ("Sarah" from now on) and her friend) among other countless things. The point is, I know she fancies me. She is my friend's sister and the three of us go to a martial arts class twice a week. I am going to ask ehr to be my girlfriend soon, but I don't knw when and where. Should I do it at our martial arts class? If so, how do I get us to get a moments privacy, when my friend thinks me and Sarah are just friends? If I told him how I feel, he'd blabber it out to her or wouldn't take me seriously. Or should I do it online? I want this relationship to last and I want it to be great for both of us from start until finish. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, the_used +, writes (21 November 2005):
well watever you do don't be shy just ask her out and it doesn't matter where or when it is if she likes you like you said she won't care where or when
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2005): go up to her and ask her out better late then never thats what i say
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2005): First I think you are too young to be having a steady girlfriend. And she is very much too young. Why don't you both just enjoy your childhood, and leave the dating nonsense to start a couple of years from now. You say she is going to martial arts class, and she is your friend's sister. Seems to me that as long as those things are true, you will be doing things together, and growing together. If there is really some chemistry building between the two of you, it will continue to happen. You don't have to have any kind of commitment to ask her to a dance, or some other school function where classmates are likely to show up with a " girl ". And, from the point of view of the girls, they are more likely to have fun and enjoy themselves if they don't feel pressure to kiss a boy, or do anything more with him because he is their " guy", or she is his " girl". The hardest part of being in a relationship is learning to relax, and treat your partner just as you would like to be treated. If you can't ask her to be your girl, you frankly aren't comfortable with her enough to ask her. The same situation will apply when you ask a woman to marry you. Unless you are very comfortable with her, and already know what her answer will be, without her having come out and told you she wants to marry you, you probably are not ready to ask the question. It is hard to tell novices, but you will really know when the time and place is right to ask her to be your girl. We won't have to tell you, and can't, really. But, you will both know. Be a friend, and let things develop, without putting pressure on yourself, or her.
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