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writes: How can you make a guy not get any more tattoos ? ? ? I hate them so much they are ugly to me ! HELP
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reader, stina  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 Hello Anon,
You can't make anyone do anything, first of all. Second of all, what do you like about him more - his personality or his looks? And I also want to ask - is he trying to force you to change the way you look at all? I think you should ease up a bit about this - it's pretty trivial if you're really into him for the right reasons, don't you think?
Now - if you're upset because the quality of tattoo is not that great (if it's spotty and such), then you should probably do what the anon poster below suggested. Maybe suggest to him that he could work with his artist to make something better than what's just hanging on the wall in the studio (although the tattoo artist may have designed those, it won't be something original and personal to your guy). Let me tell you, I have worked extensively with my artist for all of my tats and the one I'm having work done on now has lasted over two years and looks amazing. Maybe that's just what your guy needs - to devote more than 5 mins to picking out what he wants.
Or maybe he needs to find a better artist. Good artists will have portfolios on hand in the studio. You may have to search around for a bit, but these things last for life so it's a really good idea.
Just remember, if he likes the tattoos he's getting then there's really not much you can do about it. (In my opinion you shouldn't be trying to force him to stop doing what he wants to his own body anyway - unless he's going to a dirty studio or something then he's not putting himself in harm's way.) Just leave him alone and be happy with who he is, not what he looks like. Life is too short to worry about stuff like that - especially when the only thing it seems to be impacting is how hot you think he looks... It might be different if he was all about joining the military - because then it's against uniform requirements to have tats on certain places (at least in the US). Then I could see why you'd want to *help* him to stop.
If you find it's bothering you too much, maybe you should find someone else who isn't into tattoos, since it's a big cause of concern for you. It doesn't really sound like you're too attached to him from your post...but then again maybe I'm wrong. It's only two sentences so it's hard to tell, but since your main point was just making him stop, that's how I came to my conclusion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006):
What he needs is fewer, better quality tatoos.
First, get him watching some show like Miami Ink where they make fun of all the poor quality, incongrous work. Hopefully that will stop him from running off to the strip mall and picking something out of a book.
Then get him involved in planning some kind of elaborate work. This kind of thing takes people years to plan. And he'll have to go around checking up on all the possible tatto 'artists' to see who is capable of pulling off his design.
With all the planning, and the expense of the complicated design, this should buy you a couple of years tattoo free. You could even encourage him to get some of his existing work fixed up in the meantime as a way of checking out shops. Hee hee
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): If you knew he had tattoos, and you know his love for that sort of creative medium, then you must have accepted that fact when u first fell for him. Now that he wants more art on his body, you have the choice to talk to him, make your point and see how he reacts. If he reacts in your favor, great. If he reacts negatively, then well, you know what to do. If he reacts objectively, then you just either need to accept it, or don't and leave.
[coughs] Open communication, objective perspective, compromise. Otherwise, not quite a good relationship.
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