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writes:I am in a sort of long distance relationship. Not really, he lives an hour away, and i see him about once a week. So I can't just see him anytime but I see him semi-often.We are both guys. I'm gay. If that makes any difference.My problem is that I want more attention I guess. The thing is he does give me attention but I'm someone who always wants more attention. Now when he's physically here it's fine, I feel great. But the other 5-6 days of the week when we're exclusively talking online or rarely, the phone, I'd like more attention I guess. I know I'm being selfish though, and he's so great I don't wanna start an argument. We plan to move in together in May or June, which isn't too terribly far away, so part of me thinks I should just suck it up and wait it out, when I know I'll get all the attention I want once I live with him.But for now, it's a little tough being lonely while he watches football and isn't online -- I have no interest in watching it.What's the best thing to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): To be very honest I'm giving you the advice I have yet to learn to follow. That is to learn to be patient! I am also in a long distance relationship (he's 3 hrs away and I see him every 1 or 2 weekends) and often am lonely. I strongly suggest you tell him how you feel (not as a demand but more like a confession about how much you need his attention) i'm sure he will try to do something. If he can't do much the next best thing is for you to find a hobby of your own. Something that will let you use your time on other things other than being sad and lonely waiting online (like me- my bf is a programmer and student... imagine waiting all this time just to talk to him: he's with his friends or studying, eating, classes, clubs) My other option for you is that you both try to do something that you both while far away. I know my best friend and her bf recently took up video games online (so they both play at the same time and chat while playing) they enjoy it because they go around the game and it makes at eases the thought of being far if only virtually for some hours. I hope this helps
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