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writes:On the 10th April I got into a strop at my boyfriends house about getting some of my things back to my house and I left his house without saying goodbye to any of his family. (We were heading back to mine when I left.) Then on the Monday I got angry about him telling his mother things that I had been telling him and said I didn't want to tell him things if he was going to tell his mum - meaning that I didn't want her advice all the time. In the afternoon he broke up with me. He had sent me his usual messages in the morning and with each reply he'd put "love you loads" and 3 with a xxx. He's not given me a chance during our relationship to make things right and only wants to be friends now. I feel really bad for hurting his family and him in the process. I'd do anything for him.How can I prove to him that I'm changing so that incidents like before won't happen again? I just want him back!
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reader, Selphie142 +, writes (25 April 2007):
Selphie142 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI went to the doctors today and he said I'm suffering from some depression and anxiety, which he reckons I've had for a long time. He also thinks I could have "social phobia". The doctor's also precribed me some medication for depression. I'm kinda thinking that this is why I acted like I did with my boyfriend and his family.
I want to tell him about it, but I don't want to make it sound like an excuse for what I did. Any ideas?
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (22 April 2007):
 I dont think you can blame him for telling his family/mum things, coz that is what family is there for. He should be man enough to use his own judgement and make his own decisions about his own life.
I think you need talk to him and explain how sorry you are, while explaining your reaons for your actions. When explaining all this, make sure he knows you are doing this for the right reasons. You may want him back, but you dont want him to think you are only doing this to look good in his eyes.
I dont fully understand his text messages he sent, and it does sound like he had a sudden change of mind for some reason.
Make sure he can see the change in you, be adult about this and give him a reason to want you back. By this I mean, let him see that your intentions are'nt just about your love for him but your sincere guilt for doing the things you may have done to hurt his trust in you and his family.
Dont just think about your needs here, be un-selfish in this situation and put his needs before yours. Be willing to walk away. He may see a side to you he thought he had lost in all this commotion.
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