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I tried to help my friend out but it has totally backfired on me! What should I do?

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Question - (16 April 2012) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2012)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

A past friend of mine recently got in contact with me. She moved to a U.S territory down south (Puerto Rico) and her family is not very well off now (single mom). Her mom needed a cell phone ASAP but the company doesnt deliver to her country, so she asked me if she can use my address, so that I could directly send it to her after I received it. Reluctantly, I agreed. I paid the shipping rate (10 bucks) to send it to her country.

I don't have a lot of money and knowing she wouldn't pay me back (because I stupidly told her not to worry about it) I sent it through priority. She was asking for the fastest delivery possible, and it hasn't gotten to her yet. Now her mom doesn't believe that I ever sent it, and instead of showing some form of gratitude, she is indirectly harassing me through her daughter. The receipt I got didn't have a tracking number on it, and they both are pressing me to call the shipping company, this and that.

I know I should've got the tracking number, but I've already made calls and visits to USPS that were unnecessary and caused me loads of stress. Instead of being civil about it and patient, they are showing their agitation, when nobody else they knew would've done them this favor (they really have bad connections). I knew I shouldn't have agreed to do this, but I feel completely used and manipulated. The package will get there by the end of this week, but they are growing impatient and telling me that they keep checking their PO Box and nothing is there. I told them all the details and didn't hide anything from them, but the place I sent it from offered postal services, it wasn't an official USPS center, so of course it makes me look bad.

What should I do? I can't take this harrassment anymore. The girl herself is a fraud and stole from previous companies she worked for. Should I cut contact? Her mother is a control freak and always talks crap about me and my "friend" always tells me how dissatisfied her mother is with me.

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A female reader, Wisdom Australia +, writes (17 April 2012):

Wisdom agony auntThese are not friends, Give them the update and move on. This is not your problem you tried to do the right thing and they are being awful... time to move on and forget them

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (16 April 2012):

Honeypie agony auntYes, cut contact and don't do her any further favors or bother with any more updates. She isn't being a friend when she lets her family hassle you this way. She sounds like a manipulative person and I wouldn't be surprised if they started demanding more from you.

Does the mom even KNOW you aside from this one favor?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada +, writes (16 April 2012):

Ciar agony auntThere was nothing wrong in doing this kind of favour for someone worthy of it. This duo is clearly isn't.

You've already given them the update. Now cut contact and have nothing more to do with them.

Be more selective of what favours you do and for whom.

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