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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I told my tutor I had a crush on him and that it was affecting my work, I knew he would reject me, we laughed and agreed to carry on as normal etcHowever he has been really cold towards me since, he won't look at me or even barely talk to me! I miss talking to him and it hurts! I daren't ask him about it because he will realise I am still thinking about him, and I want him to think I am over it all.Anybody have any idea why he would act this way?It's not like i'm scary or deranged or anything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2015): Thanks for the replies.
I was sure that his rejection would turn me off and I would snap out of it, however it's had the opposite effect.
I wish I had kept my mouth shut. We used to to talk all the time and laugh about silly stuff. Now it's nothing.
I just miss the 'friendship' or rather tutor-student relationship.
Who am I kidding? I want him!!!!!!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 March 2015):
 He's making sure that he's not doing anything to lead you on.
It's an appropriate response to your share with him.
WHY did you tell him? what did you think (or hope) would happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2015): He is worried that he has given the wrong signals and could lose his job. Best to stop thinking about him and focus on your studies.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 March 2015):
 EDIT...
THAT is why thinks are weird now.
SHOULD read...
THAT is why things are weird now.
Stupid auto-correct ....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 March 2015):
Because he feels like HE did something wrong or that he behaved in a manner that gave you the NOTION he would be interested in you. It makes him uncomfortable knowing that you crush on him. If his intentions was to be friendly with his "student" and you construed it into something more it makes people uncomfortable.
Having a crush is fine, it's normal - BUT that doesn't MEAN you HAVE to tell the person you are crushing on. SPECIALLY not when you know NOTHING will come of it, because? IT MAKES the other person absolutely uncomfortable.
What WAS the point of telling him? IT was for YOUR benefit, not his. THAT is why thinks are weird now.
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