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writes:i fell in love with my friend for 2years although when she found out she didn't feel the same. Its 5months on and i still cant get over her. She thinks i'm over her. I feel if i explain to her from the bottom of my heart how much i like her she may realise for sure that there can be no harm in dating me and i won't bite. What do you guys think? How can i go about doin this? Think about it 5months i haven't found any other girl attractive i've just waited for this special friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): Hey man, last night this girl told me she didn't feel the same way about me and I've been in love with her for about a year. I know its hard but no matter how deep and sincere your feelings may be, the only thing you can do is let her go. Maybe she'll never find someone who can love her like you because you really do care about just because she's who she is, but that doesn't change anything my man. Don't go spilling your guts and then be forced to pick them all back up again after she's already told you she doesn't feel the same. Let her fly, even if you can't follow
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 July 2008):
This happened to me. This guy who was my friend told me he wanted more. I didn't. I told him I loved him as a mate though so we continued to see each other as friends. Luckily he really did get over me and got a girlfriend and we all lived happily ever after.
If he had told me he loved me a second time then I would have had to have cut contact with him.
You say you don't bite but you do. You come with huge emotional baggage. If she goes out with you she knows it's going to be serious, straight away. If she decides after a week that it's not working out then you are going to be heart broken. You put her in a position where she has to either go out with you or hurt you really badly.
If she liked you back something would just have happened between you by now.
You need to stop seeing her for a while so you can have time to get over her. You won't be able to if you see her all the time. That's probably why you haven't found any other girl attractive yet.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2008): look, if it's been two years , i really don't think she's going to change her mind now. i hate to be harsh but sometimes you just cannot feel 'that way' about someone, it's not something to be forced. i had an identical situation this time last year, i had no eyes for anyone but HIM and then one day he set me up with his brother (i know, can you believe it) and at first i thought no ways, his brother is not HIM, but you know what i gave it a chance and a year later i'm still with his brother and am the happiest i've ever been! so wait for someone else to come up, and believe me they will, and grab the opportunity, you having a realtionship with someone else will make you realise that you two were obviously not destined to be...or at maybe it'll stir some jealousy in her ;)
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