A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I'm a thirty year old woman with a seven year old son. Me and his father split up because we were arguing all the time - he didn't want to end the relationship and was quite possessive but I couldn't handle it any more. I felt really bad about ending the relationship and he was still pestering me about how much he loves me, etc. I didn't want to know. He has now met smeone else, I thought I would be relieved, but I'm actually finding it hard. But I don't want to say anything, because it wouldn't work, I know it wouldn't. I just don't understand why I'm finding this difficult. Please give me some advice.
View related questions:
split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): You were in at least a seven year relationship with this man, and it couldn't have been ALL bad or you'd have been gone long ago. You *needed* to split up - you didn't want to, but it was for the best so you did. However, if he'd been willing to work on the relationship, I believe you'd have stayed. So, you're mourning the loss of the good parts of those 7+ years; very normal reaction, I can't imagine anyone feeling any different. You also didn't mention finding a new partner yourself, so there's probably a bit of that slightly envious "HHMMMM...why him and not me as well?..." feeling.
You will get past this, especially after enough time has passed that you feel comfortable with the idea of meeting a new man, and actually do meet him :-).
|
