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writes:ok here goes, i got married after knowing my wife for only 2 weeks before i deployed to iraq. and it seemed right at the time but now im thinkin i might have made a mistake especially since ive been REALLY in love with the same girl for 8 yrs we still talk and we still love each other ive been in iraq for 15 months this time and this is worse than being shot. the other girl has been there for me through everything she even put up with 2 prior deployments and never cheated on me or anything even after i got married she has been completely loyal to me. i know im an idiot that goes without saying. and my wife has had a few guy friends since ive been gone and weve grown apart in the last 15 months and i dont think i really loved her to begin with nor she me, i think it was a spur of the moment LUST thing. WHAT SHOULD I DO, HELP!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thank you all for the advice and you are totally right ill be getting in touch with a military lawyer tomorrow
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Find a lawyer that can work with you being based remotely - many now work through email, phone or text (though I speak from the UK here). Get your legal knowledge in place so you know where you stand and then I agree with the other posts you must follow your heart. You are brave and putting your life on the line in other ways so find the conviction in your heart you deserve to find happiness with the right woman. This is hard but actually you are doing the best thing for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Well i think you know you ahve to divorce. But you def need to remove her power of attorny if she has one. I have heard way too many stories about all the money being gone when the man returns.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): well, there is only one thing to do isn't there? You have to end things with the wife and follow your heart. This is not the same scenario as cheating.. this as far as I can tell was a mistake on both your parts. So far you have only wasted 15 months, don't let it turn into 15 years and ruin 3 lives.good luck... and thank you for serving :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Easy, you should divorce her. It seems clear as day. If you don't love her and she doesn't love you, what's the point? File for divorce.
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