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writes:Hi people,I have been married for over 3 years now and I believe my wife cheated on me. I am usually an entrepreneur, I make enough in the first quarter to be able to pay for the rest of the year. I suddenly wanted a more abundant life so I wanted to give a try at selling life insurance. I came home one day to my wife cleaning the inside of her vagina with a towel. Strike one to me because she has preached on multiple occasions that it is a bad to do as a woman and given that advice to women in my family. When we have intercourse we normally have 30 or so minutes of foreplay and regardless of how long we have foreplay it's a struggle to get things going. It takes 10-15 minutes of start and stop sex before we get going. On this particular night no foreplay and I fell right in. We didn't have sex before this for a week or so so strike 2. Strike 3 happened when I constantly see her texting men who are clearly interested in her because she receives penis pictures from Snapchat and she still hasn't deleted them. I caught one before she could self destruct it. To get the easy objections out our only child is 2 and she isn't pregnant, she hasn't been to the doctor in months. What is going on? I'm not a gynecologist but I think she is cheating. I confronted her about it but she couldn't say anything about it. Also we keep 2 condoms and one is missing, I don't think that is substantial evidence but it is possible that it is. Am I nuts or is this off to you as well?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): I am thinking you are the type of person that over thinks things.Let me educate you.Frist off the vagina is a muscle.She will not get lose from the doctor visit or a larger penis.The way you talk I think the snap chat thing is all in your head.Jelosy destroyed many a marriage and you have that jelosy.You trust her or you do not trust her.If you do not trust her let her go so she can find someone who can and will.I feel for her it must be like walking on eggshells around you....what ever she says or does around you is judged harshly.That is too much pressure. That kind of pressure can push someone away from you.Get help now so you can learn how to respect and trust.Have you actually seen these pics or is it all in your head?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2017): My heart breaks for you. The pain you are about to experience cannot be expressed in mere language. I faced this. You can come out the other end, alive, intact, and whole. However, not if you continue to question and delude yourself. Your wife has cheated on you. No "I think" about it.BTW, your English is quite good. For the aunt that weighed in below, the language patterns of a well educated speaker of English as a second language are not difficult to recognize.When I was facing this, the PI I hired summed it up for me like this: "I've seen hundrends of these cases. I know a dozen other investigators, and between us, we've seen probably more than ten thousand. Trust your gut. If your questions are this serious, 95+ percent of the time, you're being cheated".Get a PI. Get a lawyer. Don't tell her about either. Document everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2017): I didn't mean to come off as bragging but I'm just giving you some back story. I'm an entrepreneur, with the job I have me and my wife are together most of the time.The objections portion is what friends that are women usually ask me when I ask them their opinion. I know that the spec that doctors use can stretch out the vagina and I mention the baby for obvious reasons. Also, I have no clue how many she has received. Snapchat photos self-destruct after a few seconds and I am never on her phone. I guess my question is why was her vagina like the bat cave? We have been having sex for over 5 years and she has never felt like that...I know penis pictures from Snapchat seems to be the thing right now, apparently my sisters have gotten a ton of them from guys who want them for a night. She makes it known on social media she is married but she still uses Snapchat to communicate and I make sure that all communication between me and other people can be traced. I'm just trying to see if she is lying to me or not. I can't tell, she is a great liar. She claims to have never lied to me but I can't tell. Im asking for legitimate help or experiences that are similar, I really don't know what to do or say...I've already confronted her about the evidence but it didn't turn out well. Like I said she is a great liar, she can cry on cue. I'm desperate for any kind of experience, why would a woman need to clean inside of her vagina with vaginal soap? It's all confusing to me and I'm honestly starting to believe I am crazy.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (22 June 2017):
She's talking to men on Snapchat and getting penis pics from them and you're asking us is there a problem. I don't know if she is cheating I suspect yes. But either way there isn't something seriously wrong in your marriage
You need to sit down with your wife and have a long heart to heart talk about her actions and where your marriage is headed. Don't accuse her of anything but find out how she feels about you and your marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2017): All I have to say is- she has penis pics from other guys, and you've not yet moved out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2017): This cannot be real. Maybe your wife likes it dry down there and that is why she used a towel. You sound strange. Maybe you should try writing your question in a more easy way for us to understand. A woman does not have to go to the doctor all the time. What is up with that? You do not make sense at all. All you wrote does not make sense. Were you drinking when you wrote this?
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (21 June 2017):
 what has this to do with your question " I am usually an entrepreneur, I make enough in the first quarter to be able to pay for the rest of the year"
you make this shoud like it is realy big that she can use a towel " I came home one day to my wife cleaning the inside of her vagina with a towel."
YOU say it your self " I came home one day to my wife cleaning the inside of her vagina with a towel."
I don't know what your getting at here "To get the easy objections out our only child is 2 and she isn't pregnant, she hasn't been to the doctor in months. What is going on? I'm not a gynecologist but I think she is cheating. I confronted her about it but she couldn't say anything about it."
so she receives penis pictures from Snapchat , the only thing I don't think is good from what you say , but is she getting many or did she just get one and what did she do next as in did she block that guy on snapchat,
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