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writes:hey i have a question about teachers flirting with students. there is this teacher that i have that seems to be flirting with me. He stares at me all the time when he is giving a lecture, he compliments me a lot and on everything from my hat to whatever I'm drinking at the time, we joke around a lot ( i can't help but laugh), and gives me A's on homework that should have at least deserved a B-. He refers to me alot, such as "cool people wear Santa hats" and we are the only two wearing Santa hats (winking too), and saying that I did something cool, or otherwise doing me favors. I can read body language well and he seems to send flirting body language symbols.(like pointing feet, positioning of body, etc.) Oh, and the biggest thing is that he stands so close to me when we talk that it is probably only 12 inches or so, give or take. I know that I am teachers pet and he is my casual friend, but what signals do you think he is sending? He is married, which is the scary part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): "if you enjoy his attention show it...... just because sum1 is married doesn't mean the have to be stuck on one specific person!" (Mrs-Greg-Sanders 13th December)
I know this young girl is only 14, but in 2years time she will be an adult and out of school... Please be very careful my dear, unless you change your views, you will loose a whole pile of friends and get yourself a reputation as a nasty little flirt and cheat, who doesn't care who she hurts... Be careful, this man is married. Divorces are expensive, people get hurt, children loose their fathers, families get broken up, jobs get lost, houses get sold. Think about his wife and his family, why do you want to hurt people and try to break up marriages, this way. You have a lot of growing to do. Your teacher and your parents would be horrified if they could see the real you. Your a disgusting, immoral little girl..... Please change your ways
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): I don't think it's a good idea at all to report this, or to talk to a school guidance counsellor as candldate suggests, as I can't see anything that suggests he has actually done anything inappropriate. For all we know, this may just be the student imagining or reading too much into a situation. The thing is, if you speak to anyone about this, it'll be taken very seriously, and the guy could end up being in big trouble, despite not actually having done anything wrong. It looks to me like he's just being friendly.If he starts to behave inappropriately, rather than just looking at you and referring to you (which is not inappropriate), THEN may be the time to say something to someone.
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reader, Cand1date  +, writes (13 December 2008):
Hello Dragon,
His being married is NOT the scary part, the scary part is that he is an adult, and you are not. He is also your teacher and as such he is behaving inappropriately towards you. A teacher liking a student and being nice to them is one thing, but the actions you describe seem to be going a bit over the line. A teacher should NOT be flirting with a student, period!
If it makes you uncomfortable, then you should talk to someone about it. Does your school have a guidance councelor? If so, you should talk to them about it. You don't have to tell them the teacher's name, you can even say it's "your friend" and not you. But please listen to the advice that the person gives you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Aww hun,Ive the same problem...
I really like my woodwork teacher..and I always talk to him after class,and visit him during lunch with my best friend...OF COURSE I know nothing will ever happen between us Im not stupid I care enough about him not to flirt back all the time..but It gives you a big BOOST,when you think an older guy likes you.Im 14..and I have had him for 2 years now.I always catch him staring at me when he talks to the boys in my class.It gets me through the day thinking that my hot W/W teacher likes me y`know, He does joke around with me,like making jokes about my hair..and what not..but hunni,if you enjoy his attention show it..BUT remember He is probably only doing this as a bit of "fun"..he might be attracted to you...sure if you ask your mom or dad...who they like..they are hardly going to say eachother!...just because sum1 is married doesnt mean the have to be stuck on one specific person!
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