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writes:Here is my story, I have been married for just over 2 years. My husband and I dated off an on for 3 years before we got marrried. We now have a son (16 months). Our marriage has never been very strong. We still have seperate checking accounts and my husband refuses to allow my paycheck to be directly deposited into his account. We have nothing in common, we never just carry on a converstation - and when I try to talk to him I just get very broad, short answers. I have threated to leave twice over the past year, but haven't...mainly because of our son, but things have not gotten any better. So, I went to work for a retail pharmacy chain as a pharmacy tech (i worked for the same company about 4 years ago). There is a pharmacist with our company who is about 10 years older than me, single, and very nice. I find myself now thinking about him all of the time! I even dreamed about him last night...I just dont know what I should do...or if I should do anything. I dont think I would ever be the one to pursue anything with him, unless he started it. But I can honostly say that if he feels the same way about me that I feel about him I think I would absolutley leave my husband. I just need an unbiased opinion.....someone to clear things up for me....Am I crazy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Hey if you're not happy, then there's no reason to torture yourself. Don't cheat on your husband however. You should leave if you're unhappy wether you found someone else or not. Are you sure the pharmacist would even pursue you knowing you're married with a young child? It's best to start a new relationship off single.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): I think that you should try working on your marriage a bit more before considering starting a new one. Maybe you should seperate from your husband for a short period of time to let him see what he is missing when you are gone.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 Consider going to couples counseling with your spouse first, before you throw in the towel. Just because your pharmacy friend is showing you some attention, and seems to be your dream man, does not mean he won't have his own weird issues once you get to know him better. You are starving for attention and an emotional connection. Perhaps counseling will uncover the problems in your marriage and help you both work on solving them. If your husband refuses to go, and doesn't seem receptive to what you're telling him, then you may need to consider a trial separation to wake him up befoare filing for divorce and moving on with your life. Good luck.
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