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writes:heyso i won't jump into a lot of details but basically...there is a guy in my town at the moment ill call him john. i am generally speaking a total self-confessed commitment-phobe...i don't like getting into emotions that i can't control so i just generally don't get into a position where i could fall for people. well this guy changed everything...i've had a fair bit of heart break in my life and lost a lot of things/people i've cared deeply about but somehow john has gotten through all that. He's an athlete and he has only been here two weeks and is leaving in less than a week but i feel such a deep connection with him...i am an athlete myself and so i understand what it's like travelling and what not and i understand a lot about how guys act when they just want to get lucky and etc (i play on a men's team)...but i really think he genuinely is a nice guy and actually cares about me..and trust me i have had my moments of 'oh you are being so rediculous he's like all the rest' but he's not...and i can't stop thinking about him.so i guess my question is...how do i deal with him leaving without regretting it and feeling like i could've done more? he basically lives on the other side of the world and i know i can't change that but i want him to know i'm serious about my feelings.i dont really know how to explain this i am usually so good with words but i can't even think of what i want to say...i just need support i guess Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he already knows how i feel...i've kissed him on two different nights..well actually he kissed me and i kissed right back lol!but we cuddle and watch tv and hold hands in the car and in public and i care for him so much i have never connected with somebody in this way and never felt what i feel when he kisses mei have a friend from near where he's from in the world and she has told me that in his eyes we must be dating because people don't just 'hook up' like that over there and he must really like me...i am so confused i want to spend every second with him but hes so busy training all the time i way over-analyze when he can't come around and i just worry so much about calling because he's staying with a family here and i think that they're a bit suspicious of my motives as i heard them talking int he background while i waited for him to get the phonewe're both 18 i should also add...and i know that is SO young and i generally speaking go for guys much older than me..around 6-10 years usually...like i have never dated somebody so young but travelling and seeing the world does wonders for maturity and i find myself on the same level as him more so than anyone i've ever been with.i'm crazy about him.this is exactly what i try to protect myself from:(
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