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writes:Hey, i'm really ugly, i swear i look like a monkey, i cant get any lads, please help, i need help, i cant take being ugly anymore!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): You know? Beauty is a funny inconsistent factor in our lives. A person whom I find quite handsome may actually be below average through the eyes of another person. FACT, I'm not just pulling stuff out of my ass. ^_^
However, I think I know what you are actually asking. You are asking how you can get the hot boys in your school to notice and fall for you? If that is true, then that's easy. Live up to their desires of what they like on the person's exterior.
The thing is though, if you are simply saying that you are overall unattractive physically without or with hot boys around, then as I mentioned, it's debatable.
One of my female friends wanted one of my guy friends to like her. My guy friend told me she looks like the wicked witch of the east, but 10 times bigger and heavier and has an over abundance of perfume - enough to curtain the entire west coast, I'm sure. However, I know another person who thinks she is cute. Yeah.
Plus, you know what? A huge part of external appearances has to do with how you act, how you express confidence, and of course, your mannerisms and ettiquette. If a super hot red head, with gorgeous silky hair, deliciously smooth long legs, and curves to make me fall to my knees and hands comes up to me, I might just freeze a bit and be in awe of her beauty, BUT if she expresses a combination of dullness, blank-looks, unintelligence, and/or extreme criminal behavior, that awe would immediately be flushed away. Mind you sexual attraction would still be there, but enough of her blah-ness, that would also cause that sexual attraction to disappear.
Plus monkeys are alright. Really. Unless you look like a monkey's ass, then that's different. Joking aside though, keep fit, moderately, achieve a positive attitude, and gain confidence through building yourself up from inside adds to your overall attractiveness. You get what this old man is trying to say? /sighs
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (18 October 2007):
Hey, look around and see all the "ugly" girls that are married with children. Believe it or not the right attitude is more important to a lot of the guys out there.
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reader, stina +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Hi BQ,
Oh, come on, now. You are probably not as bad looking as you think you are. Everyone is always harder on themselves than they should be.
If you're really that worried about it, then try and accent your best physical feature. Is it your eyes? Try to make them the focal point by using a shade of make up that matches well with your skin tone. If it's your lips, try a nice shade and maybe some gloss. I used to work at the Body Shop and all of the employees there are trained to match make-up colors with any skin tone - you may want to visit someone there. They also do free make-overs, but that's mainly because they want you to buy one of their products afterward (but if you like it, then getting a free make-over and buying one tube of lipstick doesn't sound that bad to me!)
But like I said, most of this is probably in your head. Nobody is every entirely happy with the way that they look. You are probably fine. (And if guys are turning you down solely for your appearance, then they are shallow anyway and you are better off without them!)
Hope this helps. Take care.
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