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writes: Hi im 13 and there is this guy that i am in love with.and well i told him that i like him a few months ago, and he said that he liked me too,and when we hung out together he would flirt with me..a lot,and he would take my cellphone and run behind a building or somthing and make me chase him and when i did i would kinda get close in a hug like touch,and then he would kinda hold my hand sorta and we would look into each others eyes and it gave me hope that he would kiss me..and he almost did but nothing ever happend and this happend almost everytime we hung out.well i have been depressed over this for awhile and he told me that he really likes me alot and he would never want to hurt me and then the next day he asked another girl out,and it broke me.and he doesnt talk to me much anymore he always leaves without goodbye and he never calls anymore.and im really confused..why would he tell me he likes me and then ask another girl out the next day? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007): well the same thing just happend to me my heart is soo broken, but then i thugh if he really loved me he ould of asked me out instead ofmy best friend, buti can say that hif a boy says hat 56 percent of the time they are liying and all they wont his, you know, what and since u aint give it to him he went to another girl who would!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (7 June 2006):
 You get an extra big hug from DrPsych. From my experience of working with young people, 13 is just a horrible age! Boys don't mature as fast as girls (boys in their teen years are not from mars, they are from another galaxy). You cannot possibly figure out what is going on in his head because he is not you. He probably told you he liked you to reassure you of the fact that he likes you as a friend because he knew he had his eye on another girl. He is probably ignoring you now because he is embarrassed, not sure what to say and hasn't a clue how to handle the situation. Remember, he is not 'you' and doesn't know how to express himself like you do.
It sounds like this guy liked you as a mate, but maybe he is a bit scared about the whole romance and kissing thing. You cannot make him like you as a girlfriend and he should be able to ask other girls out as you are not a couple, although I know that hurts your feelings. Everyone gets knocked back and rejected sometimes at your age - if they don't then they will come in for a big fall later in life. It is part of figuring out what sort of boys are compatible with you, and sorting out your own emotions. I got a whole load of heart-ache at 13 to 17 from numerous stinky boys, but it worked to my advantage in later life as from the age of 18 I would take no messing from my dates. The plus point from this situation is that you had a friend who was male who confessed he liked you. That means that in the future you will have other male friends like you, and more than like you.
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