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writes: I think i am bisexual or a lesbian i am only 13 years old.I have never kissed or been intimate with a boy.I look at girls at school and wonder what it would be like to kiss or do more with them. This boy asked me out 2 nights ago but i'm torn whether or not to go out with them because i am sure im in love with girls plz help
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (4 June 2006):
Many people haven't kissed anyone when they are 13 - don't worry about that.
You are young and you should just do whatever makes you happy - if someone asks you on a date, and you think it'll be fun, then say "yes" - you are not committing yourself to anything more than a date.
If someone wants to kiss you, and you want to kiss them, then say "yes" - if not, say "no thanks, I don't want to".
Don't worry about whether you might be gay or not - for a start off, it's not something to worry about, and secondly just get on and enjoy your life while you are young - the right answer will emerge in the years to come.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (4 June 2006):
Many people haven't kissed anyone when they are 13 - don't worry about that.
You are young and you should just do whatever makes you happy - if someone asks you on a date, and you think it'll be fun, then say "yes" - you are not committing yourself to anything more than a date.
If someone wants to kiss you, and you want to kiss them, then say "yes" - if not, say "no thanks, I don't want to".
Don't worry about whether you might be gay or not - for a start off, it's not something to worry about, and secondly just get on and enjoy your life while you are young - the right answer will emerge in the years to come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2006): You should go out with him. You are young and still trying to discover yourself, so go ahead and go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): You should go out with him, darn,I would count yourself lucky for being asked out! (I wish someone would ask me!)I'm 13, and I think in the same way as you do, but you just kind of have to live with it because trust me, you really don't want anyone to find out especially when it might not be true! Your probably not in love anyway, think about it. You just said 'to kiss or do more with them' not like there personality and general being is better then a guys so it doesn't necessarily mean your in love with girls.
Good Luck! :)
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reader, Celticlass +, writes (28 May 2006):
Hi there,
Only time will tell whether or not you're gay, bi or indeed straight- all I can say is if you feel uncomfortable at all about going out with this guy then I would say it's maybe just not time, yet....see how it goes then maybe when you're in the right space try going out with someone. On the other hand, if you feel okay about going out with this guy then as Phoebe says, "go for it" however I have to question her statement "then it's obvious you don't look like a bi or a lesbian."....do we all look the same??? bisexuals and lesbians come in all shapes and sizes, you know!
Take care,
x
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
there is no shame in being a bi or a lesbian. I'm not, but you'll never know if you are for sure. I'd say go out with this boy, if he likes you enough to ask you out, then it's obvious you don't look like a bi or a lesbian. Go for It!!!
You are only thirteen, so you cannot be sure yet what true love feels like. Go Out With this boy!!!!
Help enough?
All The Best and blessed Be,
Phoebe
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