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writes: A guy at work and I usually meet up a couple of times a week for a coffee and a chat. It's a cool way to break up the day and I enjoy hanging out with him.Yesterday I had a bad day at work - got some blame for something I didn't do - so was feeling down. I emailed him and told him about it and he called me up. As I was on the phone my manager walked over and I had to get off the phone to talk to the manager, but instead of saying, oops, gotta go, I think I was just distracted and we said goodbye.Later in the day he emailed me and asked if I wanted coffee. I said no cos I was covering a shift where I have to be at my desk the whole time. He said he would deliver to me instead (which was sweet) but I didn't want to get distracted from work, so I told him thanks, but no thanks and asked him about his plans for the weekend.He replied that he was just going to tidy his desk and go - and that I wouldn't see him on monday, tuesday or wednesday for various reasons.I replied saying I'd not recognise him when I next saw him with it being so long, but to enjoy the weekend.He then replied back saying his boss was questioning the amount of work he spends on a project that we both work on. (I felt like he was saying that we wouldn't meet up so much any more.)Now I wish I'd said yes to him bringing me the coffee - I never meant to hurt his feelings. But it must seem now like I'd given him the brush off - but I was feeling moody anyway cos of the work blame thing.So really I'm wondering whether I should email him over the weekend to explain, email him at work next week, or just leave him to sulk about it and then see how things go next week????
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reader, bonym  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 Leaving him to sulk wont achieve anything my dear, if you are truly bothered that you hurt his feelings, which I believe you are, email him to let him know and leave it at that, its up to him if he wants to start being "not moody" with you. Gently apologize and I am sure he will understand. Talke care babes. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): Explain to him what you did here with slight modifications and apologize.
Tell him you value your friendship and you hope that he can still be his sweet self and you look forward to seeing him next.
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