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writes:I've been struggling with this for a while, since about 7th grade when I started noticing how pretty girls are but just ignored it. and when I got older I started getting more and more atrracted to girls but I always just denied and thought I was a freak but wouldn't let myself believe that I might be bi. I mean I love guys and I even have a boyfriend but I can't help but check out girls like I would a guy. When I first started giving him hint he said I better not be lesbian or bi, but a couple days ago he figured it out on his own and doesn't seem to have a problem ith it, but I still am having problems with admitting it to anyone including myself. there shouldn't be a problem but I was always raised that it was so I'm so scared and I don't know what to do. I would love any advice people have for me. sorry this was kind of long.
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reader, LAdiiSuPahSt4r  +, writes (23 April 2009):
 I know exactly how you feel. I am in 7th grade now and going throught the same thing. Everyone in my class was bi except for 4 girls and the boys. And it was a dare for me to kiss a girl and I did and I liked it. So then people kept sayying I'm bi and then I wasn't sure if I was or not. So to test it I went out with a girl and I wasn't feeling her as much. And thatsz how I figured out I wasn't bi. Bhut it was hard for me to say I did go out with a girl and I went out with her for a month. but I said to myself " if I can't go out in the world and say I am bi , then I am not " soo if your not comfortable being who you are then it is not really you. HOpe I HelPed !!!!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 April 2009):
Hey hun, I'm bi and I'm married to a wonderful man.
Being bi is hard as you want to be with both sexes.
But how you chose to live your life is up to you.
A lot of bi people (myself included) find a man or a woman, fall in love with them, and give up everyone else of either sex and stay loyal to that person.
Some people have an arrangement with their partner so you'd be loyal to your boyfriend and never go off with any men, but he'd be ok with you kissing girls as long as they were one time things and he was your partner.
Some (and I think this is the bi equivalent of winning the lottery) fall in love with another bi person and then both are committed to each other but go off and have flings with people of the same sex. But you need to be open and honest with each other for that to work. There needs to be a LOT of trust and understanding.
If you think you are bi then that's great. Your boyfriend is still your boyfriend though so get comfy with it in your head and next time you are single then you can go out and meet some girls and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx
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