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writes:hey, well.. basicly! i dont think my boyfriend has cheated on me in the past. im 18 and hes 29, so there is an age difference but this has never even mattered to us or anyone else, we got on so well from the minute we met! i love his family, we all get on so well! same with him and mine.. we've been together now for just over two years, everythings been perfect up until now.. about 3 weeks ago i found a text on his phone saying 'thanks babe, you know how much it means and i hope we can do it again some time xxxxx' or words to that effect. i never go through his phone and he never goes through mine, because i thought we had nothing to hide. *his phone was on the arm of the sofa, i checked the time and there was an unread text on his phone from this girl* i didnt recognize her name which is why i had a nosie. i just left it, then the weekend after this, i was at his with him and his mum and he got a phonecall, went out of the room to answer it and then he come in and was weird.. said 'gotta go see a man about a dog, be back soon babe' kissed me and left! i didnt see him again for two days, me and his mum were suspicious of something but i didnt think much... id not been to his since this.. we'd argued abit because he was acting dodgey, just generally acting funny, but on monday of this week i went to his, and his mum looked at me funny and was like 'oh, hey you' asif she didnt expect to see me.. we got talkin, then me and dan went upstairs and his bedroom smelt funny.. dont mean to sound like a weirdo or anything, but the room seemed like there had been a lot of recent sex in it.. if you understand me :\ i dont wanna sound strange! i went back downstairs and just thought everything through, and it made sense in my head! he'd been texting some girl, the phonecall.. he'd met her, his mum maybe saw some other girl so assumed we'd broke up.. then the evidence was in his bedroom.. but then today he text me 'hey babe, payday! fancy cinema and nandos? my treat, love you loads x x x x x' so we met, he gave me the most beautiful flowers ever, and we had a lovely day! now im confused! i dunno wether its guilt.. or hes plannin something, or my minds baffled! could be my hormones i dont know.. i found out about a month ago in pregnant (only 7/8 weeks) he doesnt know yet.. im just confused! please can someone offer any advice? would be appriecited! sorry for long winded question, thanks. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Ask him outright if he is seeing someone. Otherwise you will just end up wondering all the time. Flowers can just be flowers, or they can be a sign of guilt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Hmm, well this is indeed a tricky one because you saying you're pregnant at the end. I would, if I'm honest, say it IS strange.
You've either got it all spot on, or you've got it completely wrong. Either one or the other. I'm very much hoping it's the second one for you and your baby's sake.
The main thing I found suspicious was the text he sent. I'm just wondering what he could mean by 'thanks babe, you know how much it means and i hope we can do it again some time xxxxx', and obviously as you know, it does look extremely suspicious. It could be between him cheating on you, or him just catching up with an old friend over coffee or something. As you say, you've never heard of her before.
See, if that was my boyfriend and I came across that text, I would of confronted him about that straight away.
We, OR you will not know the answer to this. You NEED to talk to him about this. I'd advise you not to tell him about you being pregnant just yet, if I was you I'd confront him about his suspicious behaviour before anything. You should have already to be honest. Definitely ask him about the text and who it was. Watch his facial expressions, you'll know if he's lying.
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