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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So last winter break, by chance, my friend and I ended up hanging out together for a whole day. We really got to know each other and I mean, I had always had a tiny crush on him so things moved fairly quickly, but it was the worst timing. The next night I went to see his band play and we ended up talking online for a long time and since we both dont sleep he picked me up and we went to a 24 hour diner and hung out. The next night was the night before I left for school again, so I went over his house and we hooked up, nothing much, it was pretty innocent. I didnt think he actually liked me because Ive always thought he was the coolest aka way too cool for me. But he texted me all the time and said some pretty cute things and we would talk online all the time. As time went on, we sort of talked less and less, and online only. Then I came home for spring break. I didnt see him until the night before I left (again) and he was pretty obvious about the implications. I mean, no one goes over each others house at 3am if theyre friends right? Well, I was overanalyzing and insecure and paranoid so I got really nervous and distant. Nothing happened. I went home. We dont even talk anymore. The thing is, I really just love talking to him. I just want to be friends even, thats how much I like him. We have so much in common, he is the best person Ive ever met to talk to. So, I just went to see his band play again and all I got was a "hey" in passing. Its my own fault I know this, and I know he probably doesnt want to deal with my stupid mixed messages anymore. I honestly have nothing to lose. I think he thinks I hate him or something. If he is online, I want to talk to him. I have things to say I guess, but should I somehow bring up the "we dont talk anymore" thing in a not-too-serious way? Should I even talk to him? I definitely dont want to tell him exactly how I feel because one - its on the internet.. and two - that would scare him away. I dont even know where to go from here?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 Don't put all the blame on to yourself am sure some of his behaviour did show that he was only interested in one thing. Even though he didn't get anything from you it would still make you wonder was he just wanting to use you.
I think the best thing for you to do is to keep things light. If he is on line again talk to him and just say that you miss how you both don't talk any more. Maybe ask him would he like to meet up some time to catch up. Just keep it friendly and see how he reacts. Good luck.
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