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writes:Hey guys, I need some advice on how to not get too attached to people and depended on them.I have a really bad tendency to get really really really attached to my bf's or even friends who I like more then just friends...and I become exstrmely dependent on them, so much that I get upset when I cant see them when I usualy do or talk to them etc etc...I dont like feeling like this because people think I am very "clingy". And they tend to try and push me away thinking its for my best.So I thought that I could find a bf who is a clingy person as well then it would all be ok. So I did but it turns out even he felt I was to clingy and one of his friends who I think likes him, told him that hes to clingy to me so now hes trying to distance himself! I am really hurt by this. I told him that i love him being clingy but he said that he has to try and stop being clingy. I get really upset when people distance themselves from me. I take it to heart and think there is something wrong with me. I am a very insecure person and every time this happens I seriously doubt myself and get very down about me.what can i do? any advice? thanks!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 It's so hard to break the cling thing. I used to do it too but you just have to try really hard with it. You have to act a little hard to get. Like when your guy texts you wait at least ten mins before you text him back and take relationships slowly. It's so hard to stop being clingy but until you do it's impossible to be happy. Start doing stuff that makes you happy and do that whenever you're feeling clingy. e.g If you really like listening to music for example when ur desperate to text or call your guy listen to a CD first to distract yourself.
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