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writes: Ok, so this is a really complicated long post and i'm sorry, but the information is needed to get the full picture. I've had an on/off boyfriend (call him S) for about a year and we broke up last sunday. It was all left well, the reason we broke up was because he was depressed and couldn't give me the love necessary in a relationship. He still needed support coz he was homeless and jobless so I decided I'd have to put my own needs to one side for a while and just be a friend, giving him food and money when he needed it. I met up with him on Friday to give him some money and he was much better, almost happy even. He'd cleaned himself up, swallowed his pride and moved back in with his parents, and his dad is trying to get him a job where he works. S and I spent the afternoon together, flirted a lot and decided to be sex buddies. Both of us need to be single right now so it seemed like the perfect option. We had sex, then he left and i went to a friend's party, and he went to his friends party. I got drunk and rang him, he was also drunk and told me he loved me. Later that night I ended up with some guy I met that night called A. Whilst we were fooling around I had another call from S asking if he could stay at mine tonight coz he said he had nowhere else to go. He ended up joining me at the party i was at. We were really close, and when I told him about A he was very jealous and kept threatening to beat him up etc. We talked about our relationship a bit, I don't remember that much except that he loved me and we both liked being single. Me and S fooled around and shared a sleeping bag that night. The next morning (thismorning) we were still intimate with eachother as if we were together but not as close as the night before. We had sex again and he continued to be hostile towards A. He came home with me and he told me that he was hurt that I had been with A, even though S told me he had been with another girl a few nights ago. We had sex yet again and I realised that I wanted to be in a relationship with him again. I went all distant and he started being all concerned and worried, but later went home.What happens now? I still love him and I think I want to be with him again. People say you're more honest when you're drunk, which gives me reason to believe that he still loves me too. I don't know how to deal with this. Should I just keep things how they are and wait until he makes the move back into the relationship or should I tell him how i'm feeling and see what happens?
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reader, confusedinlove13 +, writes (14 October 2006):
girl, dont drive yourself crazy over this confused guy. just being an FTF isisnt good enough when its with someone you love. he will go out and be with other girls and when he needs a booty call hell come back to you. i think you should tell him its all or nothing at all...and see how he takes it...cause if he really does love you he will accept that and want to be back with you again. and if he just wants to fool around he may be hesitant. men are strange. even though he said he loved you he may have just said that to avoid you from falling for someone else...after all you are supporting him and giving him money. personally i wouldnt do that. if he cant be your man why should you play mommy with him. he will just end up using you. thats my personal opinion! good luck! be strong! theres many fish in the sea! i think you can do better! you need a guy with money who can support you! you dont wanna live like that!
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