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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend today. I told two people what happened and they agree that it was the right thing to do but inside I feel like I just want to be with him.. he's such a jerk to me about this and he said either we're together or we don't talk at all.. I just don't want to lose him and there's a reason. I'm in love with him. I love him with everything and I can't lose him. After I talked to him I broke down crying and couldn't stop. I talked on the phone with him for a while but he still doesn't see why I had to break it off.. pretty much he had almost no time for me but we both love each other and I miss him.. What should I do because I'm like depressed and I can't sleep because of it. He said he's not going to talk to me tomorrow and I can't take that. I need him. please help me! thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): As woman we all deserve to be with a man that makes us feel loved secure and wanted, a man who will honour us and treat us with respect, you are still young but what you need to understand is that the decisions you make in your life now WILL affect you for the rest of your life, if you settle for a boy who treats you worse than shit now the chances of you settling with a man who treats you in the same way when you are a grown woman, if you close your eyes and you think of your perfect boyfriend think about how you want him to treat you and how you want to feel when you are with him, and then compare that to this guy … angel don’t settle for this, don’t drop your values for him and what is this Kid getting high on anyway? If you let a man control your life like this you are just gona get hurt.Below is some tips I got off the net you need to move on and get over him Most girls try to get over their ex by talking trash about them. All this does is lead to more drama and your ex hating you more. 1. Hang out with friends. Don't sit at home and mourn. Call friends or go hang out with them. It will show him that your strong and it'll get your mind off him. 2. Enlist the help of others. Turn to a trustworthy friend that knows how to keep a secret. Letting your feelings out to someone gets rid of extra stress and emotion. This person can make you feel better. 3. Think of some negatives in your relationship. See what went wrong. Focus on the good, but also remember why you might have broken up. You may see that your guy/girl may not have been that great. 4. Clear everything out of your life that reminds you of him. Pictures, songs, clothing articles, other personal items; everything must go. 5. Commit completely to getting over him. If you allow yourself to have doubts, or be weak, it will drag on and on. Repeat over and over to yourself; I don't need him. 6. Get out and meet people. If possible, try to meet another special someone. Having a new man in your life is the best way to forget about someone. Not only will they keep you busy, they'll put in your mind all the good things your ex never did, or the bad things your ex did but your new boyfriend doesn't. 7. Hang out with your girlfriends as much as possible. They'll help you get through it, listen to you rant, keep your mind off things, and eat ice cream with you. Plus, you'll remember how much you like them all, and how fun they are. 8. Write 20 or more of your good qualities and keep reading them over and over, adding as you think of some. It's important to remember that you are a beautiful, amazing person and you will find love again. 9. Let time pass. The more it goes, the easier it will get. Time does heal all. 10. Remember, there's a reason why he's out of your life. Be free! Tips• Try to avoid going to places where you and your ex used to go. • Avoid the songs that remind you of him. • Don't visit his Web site or any other online presence especially if he knows you can be tracked. • Make a playlist with lots of angry songs on it, especially ones that remind you of annoying things your ex did. Whenever you feel nostalgic, listen to it. • Concentrate on his weaknesses, both physical and personal. If he had ugly hairy hands, imagine them daily and think about how gross they were. If he was selfish, think about it often, saying things to yourself like "Man, *so and so* was so completely selfish... what a jerk. I'm so glad I don't have to put up with his egoistic, immature behavior anymore." You will feel like you dated a total loser. • Do not contact him or let him contact you. You'll just go rushing back to square one. You might ask a girlfriend to help you stop talking to him, whether by reminding you or talking to you whenever you feel tempted. You can also write out long personal journal entries or letters (that you don't send) if you really feel like you need to get something off your mind. • Remember, almost everyone has been through this, and everyone gets through it. You might think you're alone, and it's too hard, but it will get easier and you will be happier. • Expand your social network. • If your conversations with him have made you uncomfortable, talk on email and save the conversation. Reading over the hurtful comments he has made will help you remember why you need to get rid of this guy. Warnings• Don't talk about him because all he'll do is fight back. You'll end up being the one hurt about what he said. • While anger is a natural and healthy part of the process, don't allow it to consume you, and be a new way of obsessing over your ex. You don't want to stay bitter forever. • Your girlfriends will be willing to hear all about it at first, but no one likes to hear someone complain forever. After a few days, they'll be ready to move on, even if you aren't, and you have to be considerate. Don't take this personally. • Don't act depressed all the time to get attention. No one will want to be around someone who can only think of one person, and says they cant have fun anymore. Reference: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-Your-Ex-Boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-never-has-time-for-me-any-more.html
i posted that question. thats pretty much the reason for the break up.
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (8 January 2009):
what was the reason behind the break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): Its not healthy for you to need this boy to get through a day, and angel I promise you even if he does not speak to you you will be OK, if you make yourself this dependedn on a guy from such a young age you will only have problems with that in the future, I understand that you love this boy but you have to love yourself in order to love him, and if you need him around not to lose it… girl just remember why you broke up with him in the 1st place and you should be fine
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