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writes: Dear cupid to cut to the chase, i slept with an older guy at work, we're both single but ive not seen him since it happened before xmas. Ive been back in work today and he wasnt, he phoned to speak to one of my colleagues but she wasnt in and i spoke to him, i tried to keep things normal but it was clear theres a little tension, im not sure whether that was just me. Im not sure how to break the ice with him, Ive realised that i like him but i dont wanna scare him or rush things and i certainly dont want people to know in work. So what can i do? How can i tell if he likes me and it wasnt a one off?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Why did he not get in touch with you over christmas or you wiht him? It never ceases to astound me how people can be physically intimate with one another yet not have the guts to TALK!!
Please get his number and ring him. Ask him if all is ok between you. If he sounds positive ask him if he fancies meeting you for lunch 'to clear the air', take it from there.
I suggest lunch cos it is less likely that you will fall into bed after one drink to many, gives you time to talk.
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reader, carrie_cares +, writes (2 January 2007):
 I've been in your situation and I know how you feel. I slept with a guy that I worked with and was really worried when I went back to work. I didn't want anyone else to find out as its a bit of a taboo thing where I worked to sleep with your colleagues. I realised that I really liked him and being shy myself I had absolutely no idea what to say to him! All I can tell you is that you need to talk to him, at least if all you achieve is clearing the air. If you don't you will always wonder what if and worse the tension between you will start to show to your colleagues. Chances are he is feeling the same way as you and scared to approach the subject with you. Trust me, speak to him so at least you'll know either way. I did and I'm now marrying the colleague in question after our 5 year relationship has been going strong. Hope this helps and all the best
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (2 January 2007):
 Just try to relax and be yourself. You'll soon find out if he views it as a one night stand. Good luck.
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