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writes:Hello everyone, so I would say that I am in a tough pickle, and I am pretty depressed about this certain guy. So, I work at this day camp, and these wall climbing guys came for the campers. And when it was my group's turn to go to the climbing wall activity I saw this guy working there that looked to be my age or a year older. Let's just call him 'X'. (By the way, I'm seventeen.)So, I decided to climb the wall after my campers had gone up, and X put on my safety harness etc. So, just as I was about to go up he was sitting in the sun... so he said "Oh, crap the sun is RIGHT in my eyes, I'm moving over." And then he proceeds to lift his chair and bring it right beside me (in front of the wall I was about to climb.) And once I got down he kept looking at me and I just started to really like him, and him, myself and the other guys just started talking about rock climbing and where they've been, so I got to know him a little better. Then we started talking about this event that was happening on the weekend at my camp, and they were coming again. And then I replied with "Oh, no I can't go that day, I'm really busy." (Which I thought I was.) And once I said that, he looked a little sad, and kept saying to the guys, "Yeah, I'm coming.. I'm going to be there." And he looked at me when he said it.Anyways, the weekend came, and then I found myself a ride to go there. And I saw him again and I'm 100% sure he saw me, because he kept looking over at the little booth I was working at, and we made eye contact. Plus, there was also a time during that event, that I walked over to climbing wall, and started talking to all the guys, and the one who was married was mainly talking to me-- he's very nice. (During the first time when they came, and when I met X, the married guy's foot had been very sore, but he climbed the wall anyway, so I started laughing and called him a cripple-- I know not very nice, but he looked funny at the time. And then X started laughing with me, and kept calling him 'Crips.') Anyways, during the event when I was talking to the married guy, X hadn't looked up at me once, and he DEFINITELY knew I was right there, but I didn't know if he was acting shy, or had a girl friend, so he was ignoring me? I just don't know. Afterwards, I had to leave the event a little earlier than it was supposed to end, so I was very upset, because I didn't even talk to him once, and I just feel like crying.I know I'm only seventeen, but I just started to seriously like this guy, but the sad thing is I only know his first name, not his last name, so it's not like I can add him on Facebook or anything. I was thinking of asking my camp what all their names were (to not sound obvious that I like him), but then I'll know who he is. I'm just very upset, and I need some advice. I'm so sorry that this was incredibly long, and that there were so many 'Ands' and 'Anyways.'P.S. I know there are other fish in the sea, but it's just really bothering me, because the rock climbing isn't coming back probably until next summer, and he might not even be working there anymore by next summer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright, so this is the writer-- and I have just found out his name, and I found him on Facebook (stalker-ish-- I know haha). But, I was talking to some friends, and they said that I can't 'officially' add him yet, because he never introduced himself to me with his name, you know? So it would be 'super creepy' in my friend's words, if I were to add him. So I'm feeling very stumped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): Oh Dear, sounds like your guy thought you were blowing him off by saying you would not be there and then turning up. It would have been good to have made the effort to explain why you turned up... sounds like he was hurt thinking you said you wouldn't be there and then showing up and not making contact.It sounds like you were waiting for him to come over, but thinking about it from his perspective, he would not have been sure you wanted him to... after all you did tell him you weren't comming and then without explanation you are there.Sigh. If there is any way to find out his name- do it! Don't be shy about it. Just go find it out and then look him up. Take the initiative. If he is into you it will pay dividends. Just remember how insecure you feel when you are into someone and realise they are feeling exactly the same way.
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