A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I want to give a little background - I have an obsessive personality (my therapist) has stated this on top of bad anxiety. Lately due to the stress because of bills all I do is work and I have found that I get sick in this fantasy land of dreaming about my coworkers (some of them are cute) and building scenarios in my head on how I could get their attention and making up scenarios like movies- am I crazy? I mean I can't seem to think of anything else besides this and constrantly worrying! I also cannot stop worrying if I do or say something wrong or how they will perceive it. I'm stuck in my head so bad that I'm a meeting today I asked a question and I had to go back to one of my coworkers and ask if that was a stupid question- ? I worry about useless things but I can't stop - it gives me so much anxiety- I can' get out of my head! What do normal people think about - is this normal? How can I stop caring if people around me like me or not - it's like I live in a fantasy land and all that I want is require validation
View related questions:
co-worker Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Phil052  +, writes (12 July 2017):
 I think a lot of people escape from the everyday world into a world of fantasy and imagination. It costs nothing to dream up an alternative lifestyle, having relationships with co-workers etc. I think we all do it to a certain extent. It's only a problem if it takes over your life and prevents you getting your job done or forming proper relationships. Talk to your therapist about this issue and they will probably have a strategy for addressing it, but don't worry too much about it, it shows you have a vivid imagination!
A
male
reader, Denizen +, writes (12 July 2017):
 If you are looking for constant validation you will always be vulnerable. It isn't what you think you are. It isn't even what they think you are. It is what you think, they think you are. It seems to me that if you have a counsellor or therapist you would be advised to let them lead you through this.You must look at your thoughts and impressions and ask yourself if they are rational. What would happen, really, if you simply said to yourself, 'I don't care'?
...............................
|
