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writes: can someone please help me with sex, i am a virgin and i am with a guy im 15 and he is 16. we really want to have sex, im scared of letting him go down there because i find it embarrasing although i realli like him. we want to have sex but can someone tell me what its like?1, wheres the best, safest, cleanest place to do it2, how long do you bleed after3, how much does it hurt4, is it embarrasing5, how should i posision my self6, how should he enter me7, what protection is the besti just need to know that i am on the safe sidethanx for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2007): hunni...i mean if your askin this many questions..well..its safe to say you dont know too much..so jus dont have sex alright...like yeah...NO!
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reader, Choconut  +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Well no,, apart from ur bum! dnt worry about that.. like i sed if u do other things.. u can get to no each other bodies without necassaraly havin sex... Make sure ur careful tho.. ur not too young to get pregnant xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi this is just an add on of another querie,will he know where to stick it??not to sound strange but is there anywhere else down there that he can insert that will do any damage. how will h eknow what to dothanx xxx and gr88 repliess tar x
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reader, jess09  +, writes (31 May 2007):
If you are scared of having sex (letting him go down there), then maybe it's a sign that you are not yet ready to do it ? I'd rethink about whether you are really that ready first.
If you are though, then here's the answers to your questions.
1, wheres the best, safest, cleanest place to do it
The place you both feel comfortable doing it. Although, I'd suggest for a first time a bedroom instead of the back of a car. Get what I mean ?
2, how long do you bleed after
First time isn't synonym of bleeding. Some women will bleed, other will not. But when that happens, bleeding shouldn't too profuse (nothing that looks like your period), nor should it last for more than a couple of days (max. 2 days).
3, how much does it hurt
It doesn't have to hurt either. It does for some women and that happens mostly because of a lack of arousal, lack of lubrication or because they are too tensed hence making penetration difficult and uncomfortable. But when you make sure you are really aroused before getting to intercourse, do lots of foreplay before getting to intercourse, you use enough water-based lube, you go into sex slowly, and when you are ready and relaxed, then it shouldn't hurt too much.
4, is it embarrasing
It shouldn't be, especially with a partner we are comfortanble with. As I said before, if you feel having sex might be embarassing for you, then I'd reconsider whether you might be truly ready.
5, how should i posision my self
Personnally, I'd suggest basic positions such as girl on top or missionnary for a first time. But you can always experiment with other positions too if you are both comfortable with that.
6, how should he enter me
See question above.
7, what protection is the best
Condoms, condoms, condoms... since they protect you both from STIs AND pregnancy. I'd couple it with another birth control though such as the pill if you want to be more protected against pregnancy.
i just need to know that i am on the safe side
Well, I'd suggest you both get tested for STIs before you start getting sexually active together. Also, having a first gyn visit for you, including a pelvic exam might be a great idea too in order to start on the right foot.
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reader, Choconut +, writes (31 May 2007):
Hey babe. Well i think maybe your not ready for sex? You are young so remember you dont need to rush into sex, are you sure you want to do it with him??? There are things you can do together that show how much you love each other that arent just sex.. kissing etc. Dont just rush into it. A very important thing to do is to be relaxed and if you dont feel comfortable then this wont make it very enjoyable! Also remember that the legal age to have sex is 16, if you do have sex now this is against the law.I personaly dont think you are ready for this step. It is a huge thing to lose your virginity and you seem to have many questions. Why not wait and see if through time you feel more comfortable with him touching you "down there", once you have got past that just wait and see if sex happens but dont rush it, remember your only 15!! Have fun and be careful babes, you got all the time in the world! xxx
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reader, candy00s +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Firstly if you are going to have sex with your boyfriend then make sure you have a condom, also i think you should see your doctor about going on the pill.
everyones first time is a little uncomfortable, its not that bad though or we wouldnt keep doing it!
You might bleed a little but its normal.
Dont feel you have to rush into sex, make sure you feel comfortable with everything.
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