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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everybody. For about a year now I've been positive I'm bisexual. I live with my father who is highly religious and for this reason he condemns homosexuality. My problem is that up until now, I've had no reason to do the whole "coming out" charade to him, but I'm now dating a lovely girl and I really want him to know her. I've met my girlfriend’s family and they're all so accepting and supportive of her and I want that too.So what do you think? Should I tell him and risk him hating me or possibly make my girlfriend feel like she's my dirty little secret?I'm sorry I've basically just rambled, it's just...I do love my dad, I mean…my mom abandoned us and he’s brought me up and done so much for me and I'm afraid of him not accepting this...not accepting me, you know?Does anybody have any advice? At all? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): No darling, there isn't any reason for you to rush her into meeting the parents! I mean after all, you aren't going to get married , well as things are now, so just keep things as they are, just introduce her as a friend
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 May 2010):
I would play on the safe side...
You've lost your mum, do you want to risk losing your dad too?
Your girlfriend may be a lot more understanding than you think. Try talking to your dad about why he is homophobic and seeing if you can check his reaction.
Have a read of the old testament.... the bit about not being gay is right next to the part about handing over sheep if you covet someone's wife. Point out that Jesus said that HE was the way, and did not go and talk to the religious leaders of the day who followed those rules. He rejected them and preached love and drinking wine.
So crack open a bottle and see if you can make him change his mind before going for broke and coming out.
Good Luck!! xx
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