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female
age
36-40,
*inderela
writes:Hi, All I rely need your advice on a person whom I have a sight love.Here is the case,I use to have BF before and he betrayed me since then I do not have BF even when boys ask me to be their lover one I run away from them, the past makes me to run away from boys it's been almost 3 years since I'm all alone, but now there is a guy who works with the same place with me since he begin to work and saw him I can't stop thinking abut him, he is kind of silent boy and a bit alone never talk to him except say Hi from distance I can see him staring at me some times the same thing from my side, I never thinking of loving some one again I wonder why I keep thinking about this guy when I didn't know him and at the condition I run from those guys who I know very well, there is time I miss him when I didn't see him at work, when I saw him especially when we say hi I feel so happy, What shall I do, how can I be get close to him it's hard to for me to tell him thought I know he had some attraction on me too but he is shy, and silent person besides I heard he is going to leave the work, if he change his work there is no way I will get him I do not know his cell no even What shall I do, is my heart begin to love?PLS Give me your advice
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (18 October 2013):
 Find an opportunity to speak to him alone and congratulate him on his new job. Ask him about it. Tell him you will miss his friendly smile and seeing him in the mornings.
If he responds warmly (albeit shyly) ask him if he would like to have a coffee with you sometime.
If he says yes, try and agree a time. If he says no then you'll know he doesn't feel the same way.
You won't be embarrassed or lose face because you were just being friendly and he'd be leaving anyway.
Don't wait until he leaves and then regret letting the moment pass.
I'm sorry to hear your first bf betrayed you and don't worry that you've avoided guys. You're just being selective and avoiding the guys who you sense are not genuine.
This guy, at work, is shy, quiet and unassuming and you feel safe because he's not forward or pushy.
Don't mistrust all guys though just because your first bf was a slime ball.
I wish you well and hope this helps AB x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2013): Ask him if you can buy him lunch; or a coffee before he leaves.
You can start a little conversation by asking him when is he supposed to be leaving. Just say you are sorry you didn't get to chat sooner. Then maybe he will explain where he is going and his plans. Ask if you may friend him on Facebook and maybe keep in touch.
If you find out when he's leaving, you can bake a little cake, or get a small and simple desert as a going away gift. Keep it very simple, nothing that will stand out too much.
Good luck!
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