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writes:I recently started talking to this guy who is my best friend's school mate. We hit it off really well and finally fell for each other. He told me he more than likes me and that he will wait till I am 100 percent ready and only then will he officially propose to me. We literally behave like we are going out and that each of us know how much we are in love but we still haven't said the three special words. I really am love with him but he just told me that he will only propose when he feels I'm ready which he feels to a certain extent am not. I am just confused we are crazy for each other, love each other, miss each other, behave like a gf and bf but our relationship isn't official. What am I getting into??Will he ever know when I'm ready? I'm a bit disturbed. I don't want to jump into anything too soon coz it's been just 2 months but I really don't know what I'm doing in a relationship without a name. I felt bad when he said I will propose when I think the situation tells me but then why then he behaves as if I'm officially his and that he is mine just because we know we love each other? The official proposal and the three special words are killing me. Will he ever know when I'm ready and will he ever officially ask me out??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Sounds like he's pulling one over on you, sorry. Your relationship has no title yet he's talking about proposing? RED FLAGS. He's keeping you on a string and the guy can't even ask you out, unbelievable. What's even more unbelievable is that you are falling for this, hook, line, and sinker. If he can start taking you out to dinner and pursuing you like a normal relationship, when his words match his actions, then start taking him seriously. So far, sounds like a game and I think you're going to get really hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): If you feel that you are ready then you should take the first step and tell him you love him! If he says he loves you back then you are one step nearer! As for the marriage I think two months is to soon but every person is different so if you know he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then if he proposes then say yes but if you don't feel you are ready do not feel pressured. I wish you a lot of luck and hope everything works out ok!!!
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reader, loseCONTROLx  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Too months and you're talking about marriage already? No no no! You have to get to know eachother first, spend time with eachother. And when you're ready, then you move on to "I love you" and then marriage, a while after that. Don't rush things, love, because that's how mistakes are made. Good luck.
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