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30-35,
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writes:I really do not know what I want to do with my life and its sending me into a horrible mind state.I've got a degree in business management, I took this opportunity because at the time I was advised it was the best option. However now I'm wishing I never went to uni or college and took on an apprenticeship as I need basic training like that. I have worked part time in retail all through my education before leaving my job of 5 years for a basic reception/admin job. Sadly that didn't work out. i was given no training and although the rule is, if in doubt ask. Everything I asked was going against me. I was constantly watched over, they gave me good reviews and got rid of me just randomly. (I have wrote up here about that, but its kind of irrelivant to this post). Thing is now I really don't know what I want to do with my life, at all for that matter. I didn;t enjoy my job but I think that was mainly because I didn't like being based on the phone all the time and although I enjoyed the admin side, I was never given a chance to enjoy it. So I don;t know if its put me off or not but I'm scared I won't learn quick enough to try something similar. Thankfully, my old manager took me back on after hearing what had happened. I only do 8-16 hours a week but its better than being on job seekers as its more money and shows I'm willing to keep working. I need to begin to look for another job but I would like to keep the current job on as a saturday job as I can;t ask for my job back one day and then leave the next. I know its a dog eat dog world out there but I'm just not like that. I don't like screwing people over.This is another one of my problems. I care to much for others. For example I recently did a telephone interview, not sure on the outcome yet so I can;t comment on the next stage but I think I would enjoy the job, its in the automotive industry and I have a great interest in cars. However what isn't great is the hours! Late shifts and ALL weekend work. Which not only means I would have to screw my boss over, but I would have no personal life. They are also shifts that are never the same to making appointments or plans could be difficult. Now I know I shouldn't think like that and your career should come first but I'm not a career woman as such, and people are making me feel bad for being the way I am. Am I really so bad? Ideally I want a 9-5 monday - friday job. As in 2-3 years time all my friends will grow up and move on so I want to enjoy time with them whilst I can. Becaue if I did a job that involves late nights and no free weekends I would never see them. I know it shouldn't be important to me but the fact is i NEVER EVER had friends at school. I was bullied constantly for 16 years! mY life started when I went to college and uni and even then it wasn't easy so I hold onto the friends I have. I was severly depressed although never on medication and now I have a social life I don;t want to give it up just yet. I know that no matter how much i enjoyed a job, because lets face it if everyone LOVED what they did it wouldn't be called work. I know deep down I would be miserable if I got the job. I think I'd be happy with the job and company itself but I need a balance.I really have no idea what i want to do and as everyone keeps telling me is by the time people are 23 they should have at least an idea. But since you can;t get a job without experience and you can;t experience without a job.. How do I even make a start. I'm looking at office work but their are various things such as working with dogs I wouldn't mind doing. But I think I would be happy in the automotive industry as a whole as thats where I've always felt I belonged. Shame they have long hours. Another thing is that I struggle to learn. I an;t describe it as anything else other than being slow and my short term memory is terrible as I cannot use my own initiative unless I've been in a job for years and multitasking when in new situations is very hard. I had viral menegitis as a teenager but whether this is the cause or not is irrelivant because theres nothing anyone can do. I've looked into management courses but I don;t feel I'm ready to walk into a company as a manager when I'm not even confident in a basic role. And besides I can't pass the maths tests unless I have help. Just because I know how to work out a percentage... well if the question is worded differently it doesn;t occur to me thats I have to work things out a certain way. The link IS NOT there. I HAVE TO BE TOLD. I feel thick, useless and confused. All I want is a 9-5 job to keep me going, decent pay if possible and somewhere that isn;t just going to give up on me again. I really don't know what to do for the best. I'm good at what I know but people don't realise that what I know took years to learn even if it was just a basic task. What should I do? Is that job even worth taking if I'm successful? How can I find my way in life?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (17 April 2014):
 You can't be that thick, you got a degree! My niece has the same one and it was hard work.
If your a caring person then maybe nursing's for you?
What you do is go see a careers advisor at say,Connections or your old Uni and sit down with them to try and discover your strengths and weaknesses. Your wants and ambitions.What to do next.
The UK job market is up n down and a lot of graduates are in humdrum jobs while they look for a career.At least you work, that helps when searching.
Some folk don't know what they want at 40,50,60 - not everyone has a life plan that works out either.
Be positive, count your blessings and do what you can to discover what you DO want.
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