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male
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anonymous
writes:Ladies, I need your opinion here.I'm friends with a girl who I have always found attractive. I recently found out that she has interest in me too and so we began texting daily. However, from her texts I can sense something's not right. She goes missing from the conversation all of sudden and won't reply, sometimes even after 24hrs have passed; even if she's"online";even if we're in the middle of a very engaging topic, even if it is about her. At the same time she complains if I don't text her. It's mostly me who initiates the conversation. She says things like "you forgot about me today". It's a bit hypocrite-like IMO. Is this attention seeking behaviour? I don't text a lot of women, so do they expect to be pursued like this? For me it's quite immature and unfair for just one person to put in all the work, not to mention it hurts my pride that she never takes the initiative to chat inspite of her wanting to... Going by her complaints. Is she just basking in the attention? Is it worth pursuing someone who behaves this way; or is it all just a miscommunication by having to deal with typed messages rather that voice?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 March 2017):
 Tell her how you feel, ask her why she disappears in the middle of conversations, tell her it would be nice if she showed she was thinking about you and message you. It does sound like she loves the attention from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2017): Don't despair. Even though you are texting the rules of girls and boys prevails. Some women do not feel comfortable contacting men. However, we will respond if you seek us out. It will change if you are in a relationship. If it really bothers you then let her know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2017): Have you tried telling her all of this? Tell her: "I really like you, but you disappear in the middle of the convo. Help me understand what leads you to do that, because I feel left hanging. If you need to end a conversation even when it's interesting, give me a heads up or something."
It seems to me like she doesn't know how normal interactions should go. If she doesn't change her behavior, go find someone else who's ready to show up for a relationship.
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