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anonymous
writes:I have never had an orgasm before in my life i have had 6 partners but they can ever seem to make me cum. the only time i have is when i do it myself but its my clit that sets it off. i need answers i feel like the only one in the world with this problem and i want to be able to have an orgasm without doing something i would'nt normally do. some one help!!!!!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 November 2009):
 In order to climax with a man, you just need a guy experienced in providing oral stimulation, and ideally accompanied by skillful G-spot massage. I'll describe the techniques once again, since it has been awhile.The mood and setting needs to be right. In other words, at least sexy if not romantic. Keep in mind that women are highly motivated by anticipation and sexual tension. So are men, for that matter, but in particular, women subconsciously need the excitement of anticipating the pleasure awaiting.So naturally a proper setting and mood must be accompanied by adequate foreplay, including all the teasing, touching, light tickling, kissing, rubbing, feeling, massaging, breast nibbling, nipple sucking, fondling her vulva - whatever it takes to heat her up, if you know what I mean. But that has all been separately described.Once the couple are ready and nude on a comfortable bed, we begin the final stretch. My recommendation is for the man to assume position between her spread legs in a prone position, on his belly, possibly with a pillow under her butt, which presents her vulva for easier access. The man places his face just inches away.Using the thumbs of both hands placed on each side, he spreads her vulva just enough to expose her inner and outer labia. He begins by taking several lingering flat licks from just below her vaginal opening up along her vulva almost to her clitoris, but stop short here. He licks again, repeatedly, applying as much saliva as possible, but still stopping just short of the clitoris.Then he spreads the vulva wider, and with more of a pointed tongue, begins repeatedly licking the outer labia from bottom to near the clitoris, first one side then the other. After a moment or two, he spreads her even wider and repeats on her inner labia.He begins to include her vaginal opening, alternating all this licking with occasional plunges of the pointed tongue into her opening. He swirls his tongue at the opening at times, plunges again several times, then returns for a moment to the labia. All this activity requires patience, and perhaps lasts from fifteen minutes to half an hour.Then, he begins to include some gentle licks up across her clitoris. He swirls his pointed tongue around the clitoris a few times, then gently gives it a few kisses. Using the tongue and lips together, he french kisses the clit with little movement, just holding the kisses firmly against her bud. If her response to this is favorable, he begins licking and kissing the clitoris with gradually increasing intensity. At some point, when she seems highly aroused, the man must assume a slightly different position, usually on his knees and slightly to one side, to allow more use of his hands. Using the thumb and index finger of one hand to keep the vulva spread, he inserts the middle finger of the other into her opening. The position must allow him to continue all the previous kissing and licking to her upper labia and clitoris, which is now accompanied with vaginal fingering.Eventually inserting the middle and ring fingers, he searches for a spot two- to three-inches inside her vagina on the frontal wall, all while continuing to lick and kiss the vulva and clitoris. The spot, which feels slightly rougher or spongy than her slick vaginal walls, is her G-spot. It may be about the size of an American penny or as large as a quarter.When found, the attention with his fingers addresses this spot with a variety of motions: side-to-side, circular and in-and-out, all while continuing all the tongue and lip activities.The woman, by this time if not sooner, may be responding quite strongly to these activities, possibly moaning, breathing deeply, squirming and even lurching and thrusting her hips, pressing her vulva against his face. He continues licking, sucking and kissing her upper vulva and clitoris with increased intensity, adding a come-hither motion with his fingers on her G-spot as long as it takes.When she begins to orgasm, she is likely pressing very firmly against his face, possibly with jerks and spasms and holding his head against her vulva with her hands. The man stops the clit licking and firmly holds his lips against her clitoris until she relaxes.This technique can all take from half to a full hour, but if properly applied, it rarely fails to bring a woman to orgasm, possibly multiple times. Even if it only gets very close, subsequent vaginal intercourse may reach the threshold.The are variations and additional procedures, some of which may be found in this Web site's archives. Enter "Double M on Cunnilingus" and other topics, such as foreplay, G-spot and more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): You could get your guy to insert an upward finger and have him do a beckoning motion along the front wall of your vagina. He can stroke the inner most point, the first 2 inches, or the entire length. Also, when you're all aroused, have him talk dirty to you when he's doing it. The stroking serves to 'awaken' your vagina to vaginal orgasms. It is called the Deepspot or A Spot Method. For the purpose of 'awakening', no clit stimulation when he's doing this.All the best
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reader, tamashck  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Well let me start off by saying that you are DEFINITELY not the only person in the world with this problem!!Its quite possible that due to your relatively young age, most if not all of your lovers have been inexperienced. They may not have realised that vaginal intercourse alone in many cases isnt enough, or they may have just neglected to try different things out.Honestly, its nothing to worry about. If you are able to climax on your own then ITS NOT YOU, ITS THEM.The next time youre having sex, if theres still nothing happening for you, just grab your mans hand, guide it down to your clit, and gently tell him to touch you. He should take the hint. If this doesnt work then theres nothing wrong with helping yourself along during sex - you may think its a little weird, but honestly it isnt!!Alls else i can say is good luck! Hope i helped!!
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reader, tamashck +, writes (26 November 2009):
Well let me start off by saying that you are DEFINITELY not the only person in the world with this problem!!Its quite possible that due to your relatively young age, most if not all of your lovers have been inexperienced. They may not have realised that vaginal intercourse alone in many cases isnt enough, or they may have just neglected to try different things out.Honestly, its nothing to worry about. If you are able to climax on your own then ITS NOT YOU, ITS THEM.The next time youre having sex, if theres still nothing happening for you, just grab your mans hand, guide it down to your clit, and gently tell him to touch you. He should take the hint. If this doesnt work then theres nothing wrong with helping yourself along during sex - you may think its a little weird, but honestly it isnt!!Alls else i can say is good luck! Hope i helped!!
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