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writes:I've posted quite a lot on here about the same subject.I feel very low and have lost a lot of self esteem due to bad relationships. I just don't know how to pick myself up - I am trying.I really dont want to see anyone - therapy wise but I'm scared, scared because I have very few friends. I'm 34 now and feel ancient, I don't feel I'm ever going to find anyone now, just feel very depressed. I need to lift myself up but can't see how? Any advice please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): First of all, 34 is not ancient. ( I'm 48 and wish I were 34!). Please don't let anyone else steal your thunder. I agree with the other answers about nutrition, excercise and lists. It's corny but it works. Then make a list of what you really want in life. Like a home, to be a good tennis player or piano player, to have a garden or travel the world. Add the small thongs as well as the big ones. Then start doing them. The sense of accomplishment will make you more self confident which boosts your self esteem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): I love lists. I have had the same problem before. So I wrote down what I didn't like about myself. For each negative thing, I came up with two positive ones. My problem was fixed in two weeks. Easy as pie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your feelings, but they are just that. Don't build up an inner mental prison that cages any opportunity for happiness. I really think you need to spend less time in your head and more time doing other things. You need to get away from these patterns of thinking. I suggest cardio exercise, the blood moves around the body, oxygen circulates and you get this good physical high going. Another thing I would suggest is to eat delicious food, like fresh fruit and veggies. You are probably not eating well and a balanced diet is like a platform to good health - physical and mental. Try these two self-care habits (you have to make them habits) and then write back about the results.
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