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writes:I met a man online several years ago. He and I got along until he told me that a woman from his past wanted to come back in his life. At the time I had just stopped dating someone else and was trying to see what was going on with us. So he end up marrying someone else and I also made someone else. Well as fate would have it I divorced and so did he and our paths crossed once more. So we had coffee and chatted. This is what he said, "That he didn't want just sex that he wanted to cook dinner and have me spend the night sometimes. I used to be the one to run home due to I was working two jobs and in school. Anyway, he said he had a friend from his old city and she comes down every now and again and all he ask is that I respect him. I have always cared about him but I just don't understand what my role is and what I am to be doing. I just feel some kind of way right about now. I don't know if I can date or form a relationship and have him on the side. I really don't know what that meant. Please give me some clarity. I don't want to leave again without giving us my best shot. He just had surgery on his prostate and I just don't know.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 May 2014):
 It sounds like he is interested in having you around ON HIS TERMS only.. something like FWB for sure.
I would not bother to waste time on him if you want more than a casual thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): He seems to think you will just always be happy to be second best.If your happy with that then fine. Otherwise tell him that you want to give it your best shot, with just you and him in the relationship.The only one who can give you clarity is knowing exactly where you stand and only he can give you that answer.Hope it works out .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2014): I agree he is not looking to you for a relationship. You both married other people, and he is seeing someone else. I would look elsewhere for a relationship if you want more than sex and dinner while he sees this other woman as well as you.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 It sounds to me like a FWB arrangement he has planned for you two.
It all depends on what you want, if it's a relationship with a future, marriage etc then he is definitely not offering that is he?
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