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*ictoria Aubrey
writes:Should I stay or should I go?I'm a 29 year-old, divorced and a single mother of a toddler. I've lived in the same city for 10 years where I've worked many jobs and received a bachelor's degree. I have close friends with children and a couple family members that live here. I'm almost done with the application process to graduate school that's a couple of hours away. My ex-husband is a jerk that fights me on everything and sees my son every week. The program I'm looking into will take about 2.5 years and it's in a small city that I grew up near and have some distant friends and family in. I'm scared to move because of the problems it will cause with my ex. I'm afraid it will be difficult to find night care for my child and I maybe lonely. I'm afraid that moving may upset things. But I'm very sick of this scene and the crap my ex keeps doing to my life. I'm afraid if I stay here I will regret it and continue to be miserable on most days. We have shared legal and I don't think he will be very cooperative about me furthering my education in a town that's only a couple hours away.I've been mentally exhausting myself trying to figure out what is the best thing to do for my child and me. I don't have a job and need further credentials to get one. The application process for graduate school is lengthy and hard. Any suggestions?
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reader, Victoria Aubrey +, writes (6 August 2009):
Victoria Aubrey is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you very much for your inspiration it is much needed right now. Thanks.
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reader, Lani702  +, writes (6 August 2009):
 Working towards a higher education is always the right answer, in any situation. I say stick to it, perservere, no matter what the challenges, and go on to graduate school. You'll be happy that you did it. You're also setting a great example for your child. Who knows what you'll find in this new town? A new life, a new love, you'll meet other like-minded people in school, make new friends - the possibilities are endless! Major changes always bring on feelings of anxiety, stress, guilt, even excitement. From change comes growth. Once you're there and settled in to a new routine, I bet you'll be happy that you decided to make the big move. Don't not go to school just because you don't want a fight from your ex. You're not moving so that you can go fishing more often. You're moving to continue your schooling. What better reason is there? With moving, the both of you will have to come up with a new plan of visitation and all that, but it will be worth it. You'll see. Perservere. You'll be happy that you did. I wish you the best of luck.
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