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writes:Hey everyone i hope you can help me with my problem. Bottom line is my wife is gong to loose her dad but i really need help with it all. At the moment hes very ill in general and is in hospital but he is on some sort of drugs that they have given him so that he is alot more relaxed. He honestly though doesn't look well although he is able to talk about things and doesn't look in pin you can tell he hasn't got long left. Thing is its killing her i know theres nothing anyone can do as he will eventually die but i am just hating this at the moment. I honestly think he only has a week at the most left and my wife is getting more and more upset by the day. We go see him everynight for a few hours but we can't be there 24/7 when we both have to work. Shes bottling it up for some reason, i know shes not sleeping to well but thats expected(she is stille atting etc btw) I think its because shes worring but its not something i can do, make her go to sleep. I want to be there for her but i don't know what to say or do! i know how this is gonna end and i'm just reading having to be around her then. I know that sound horrible but i just can't seem to be there for people i don't know if its because i feel embarrassed or i just don't know what to do. I really need some tips on what to do both now and for when he finally dies. Hope some of you can help.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (15 October 2007):
Stay by her side and do things for her, like get lunch, paying bills, or whatever may relieve some of her stress. Keep a note pad to keep track of times and places she needs to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I lost my husband 2 years ago and my father 1 and a half years ago and it was hard. I can tell you she is going to need your love and support. Just be there for her ask her if there is anything that you can do. It may take her a while but when shes ready to talk about it she will. Dont push her into talking she will need time to morn. Be there for her this will be a hard time in her life. It seems we all remember who was there and who was not there to help us through it. Make sure your there for her if your not believe me she wont forget it.
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