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writes:I need male advice: How do I keep him interested without looking needy or like I'm playing games?...and, why won't he tell me if it's over? We've been dating for 3 years, and I'm feeling ignored.My self-employed man said he's too busy to exchange gifts or to see me for Christmas. But I saw his car after work at the local bar every night this week. His shop closes at 6. Should I say something like, "looks like you're not too busy to drink at the bar, why haven't you invited me to join you?" Should I lurk across the street to see if he comes out alone? (this is my least favorite idea, but I feel like he may be less interested in me, and Damnit, I'm curious!) Should I stop in? Should I ignore his phone calls (there was a booty call from him earlier last week at 10 pm-and I, either stupidly or dutifully, went). Should I try to make him jealous? Should I play on his sympathy? I avoid letting him think I'm jealous at all costs. I'm too old for this dating game. If he no longer enjoys my company, why doesn't he just stop calling (I've asked him to stop all contact with me before)? ...BTW, I am not interested in marrying the guy, he's just a lover. And, I usually have only 1 lover at a time...is it time for a replacement?
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reader, janea88  +, writes (21 December 2008):
if he doesnt say a thing, then it's time for you to open that subject. it seems he's not showing any effort, atlest not... so maybe it time to call it off... but still the final desicion is for you to decide, after all you've been with him for a while now.
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reader, honeygirl26  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 yes dear, it time for replacement.He obviously using you.He has free time which he dont spend with you.I beleive to him you are just sb he calls when he need sex. Beleive me, i am in a similar relationship and I just called it quit with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): Dear disheartened,
When someone dempnstrates who he is, believe him! a good relationship takes little effort to maintain. That is what makes it good. Your guy just isn't equipped to deliver what you want -or isn't interested. I think, in these dwinding times, we'd all be better off to offer our devotion to God. He made us in His image, but we haven't been very keen on keeping up appearances.
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