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writes:im a 14 year old boy, what can i talk to my mates and girl mates about on msn i say the usual "hello" "how you been" and "what have you been up to" but i know my mates are getting bored of it what should i talk about please help thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): try asking different question. questions people haven't been asked before i mean there gonna get tired of "whats your name" "what do you do for a living" and such...try talking about your day or funny things that happened to you or ask em questions of things your interested in like bowling or a movie you saw and talk about it they might be into that sort of stuff too..and if not they see that you at least have something different to talk about than other people
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Just make random conversation honey. On msn, nobody really has a proper conversation, its all random rubbish lol so you could just say what you're doing or how you're feeling, like, ''eating dinner :D been absolutely starving for ages'' or ''Aah I've had a seriously bad day. I got up and.."" You could ask if they wanna go anywhere, or if they've seen a particular film. Like, if theres a film at the movies you wanna see, ask them if they've seen it and was it any good. I mean, what we normally do is if we're listening to music people say ''(8) Plain White T's =]'' or whatever you're listening to. Just say things you probably normally wouldnt in a face to face conversation, its just casual :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): At your age I was in your shoes. You are going through a difficult phase (adolescence) and it's normal to experiment a little social insecurity because at your agee kids want to impress peers and the opposite sex. The only thing that works is focusing on being yourself and not on trying to make your friends like you too hard because it shows and makes you look desperate. Interact with them just as you would with a sibling or family member. When you say Hi on the messenger try to think about things you did through the day or on things you were thinking because that's the only way they'll get to know you better and you'll also get to know yourself. Be sensible to other people's likes and dislikes. Respect them even if you don't share their opinions and they'll respect you back. Don't expect the most interesting conversations if you see each other every day at school. Just share thoughts and laugh a little. People love to talk about themselves so your best bet is to ask and react, ask and react. Ask them anything, even if you are not very interested, and when they answer, ask more and say something positive or neutral about it. That's the way to have a conversation. Try to ask 'open' questions not closed questions. Closed question: "So Do you like the new Alicia Keys single?" (They'll answer yes or no) Open question: "What do you think about the new Alicia Keys single?" You can wait for their answer and then add your own answer and your reason to feel like that. Other thing that helps is analizing how other people interact so you would learn to do it yourself. Good Luck!
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