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writes:My dear Friend who come out here to chare your opinon to star let me tell you will apreciate every comment that will establish my decisin.I been married with my wife for almost 12 year and in those 12 year we have been trough hard ship, accident, being trow out of our house do to foreclosure, lose our cars litery in the street. it all happen between 2007 and 2008 loose jobs and God know what else.I during those 12 years i being trying to have a child it never happen our relationship was in automatic mode just being there for each other and we stop talking about having kid and we live a normal life until I loose my job the money i got i use it to go to get another carrer and I was good at it Commercial Truck Driver the fund were good we buy our first house down in Fern beautiful We both like it very much as I continue my carrer I star to go away and away further away our relationship was getting icyI come home for 2 days and hardly see my wife she was not was able to be there cause the 75 miles she have drive she stay with family to economize the money on gas in 2006 I only saw my wife 2 hours of every month i have falling in love with the machine s-t-p of me I could see clearly what was really happening in the job that i was doing I was dealing wit costumer service pretty good at it I end up having one costumer that her good were been deliver she was not due and was not expecting then for another 2 month as we converse and set plan I develop a special bond we comunicate for about 3 month before we meet first time I do admit I have communicate with this person 4 to 5 hours straigh i know insane we meet by the time I have an Idea on how she is and all she walk trought those door in slowmotion kind of thing.she came to me and present her self i could speak ever since then I been chasing her from Atlanta Ga to NY to chicago and she have done the same too I even drove all the way from Miami to Chicago just to be with her it never in my mind run that I have a wife I was chasing her everwere and she did the same thing she even fly from Atlanta to Los Angeles to resume a trip on road with she work side by side with me and see the hard labor I put into my job our tips were big in hundre of dollar I felt that she have been a good luck charm know this I when home to talk to my Dear wife she was going to curves gyms that night when i ask her to cancel I have not eat for 3 days and I say I need to talk to you I seen other woman and I want to get Divorce.she stood there quite like 30 minute it felt longer than that I think she was running out of air and her stomack hurt cause I was feling the that in me I asume then she spoke and say you want to go to Married counselor I stood there quite remember this we have been marrid 10 year when did this and then we when to Marry counselor guide by senior citizen been together almost half their life and i look and I saw i was trying my best still did not stop seen and chasing this woman then one night I have sex with my wife in so long that her tender bodyfelt I have'nt been with her ever then i when on the road not realize what have happen 48 hours later she call and say she is pregnant i fell realease and joy and happiness that there was a good news but at the same time the other woman was also pregnant belive me i know now what.my wife have a boy and other woman have a miscarried it was happiness and sadness children that so much I was persuing were coming and I felt that God have punish me for disrepecting my wife I then din't know what to do I could leave the other woman olone she was in desmay and sad I have to be there she want to give a son so much it not her fault time pass my son it getting older 18 months my relationship continue with woman I have not have sex with my wife since the last time and there i was living 2 life and my other woman move to california she follow me to wheever I go she be there she even spend one night in the airport cause I dint make it on time airplane vs commercial truck now you know.now here is where it come now my wife son is 10 month old and my other woman is one month pregnat I love my son above all but if God permit I have another son with the woman I love here the hard part what should I do how can I live like this my wife is 400 miles away I spend more time with other woman I have dicide to he here for her and start new life remember I don;t have a house, Car, the only thing I have is my son and the future son I am going to have what should I do get divorce and share costudy of my son just be aware that all this word hurt me to put them down cause as i write them I have travel trought time all over again reply your response both of the woman already know the situation I am in and Neither of them are willing to let go so what should I do.Love and respect your oppinion Dear friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Hello
Yours is a difficult situation. First i can see that you are a very caring man and you should not be too hard on yourself. Love happens! I can also see that you want to be a good father,and i admire this quality in you.Crazy idea but Would it be possible to move both women closer together, so you can still be a father to both children? If you choose to be with the woman you love then both of you could plan to move closer to your other son somehow. I thnk it would be fair that she make this sacrifice for you, and afterall your son will be a brother for the new baby. I wish you well and both of your women and chldren, good luck and god bless! Please don't hurt the son that has grown to know and love you as his father, he will not heal if you give him up.... your WOMEN hold the answer...not you....
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