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26-29,
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writes:Since I've gone back to school, I've met this girl that my other friends used to hang out with in the past year, and i have maked up situations that i can talk to her, but i dont want to get her to know that I like her, cause if this doesn't work, I still want to be her friend. She likes one of my classmates and that one does not share the same feeling. I know this cause I already spoke to him, but I did not tell him that i like her. That's the reason i dont want to make a move that's too obvious, cause she will avoid me if she finds out, cause she doesn't care for me the way I do for her. even if I try to make a move, i cant cause she is NEVER alone. In the breaks between lessons she goes to eat with all of her girlfriends, and when I go home after school I go the opposite way that she goes, and even if I want to go with her just to speak with her in private, i cant. She always goes with at least 1 friend. i need to get her alone so that i can speak to her, but i dont want to make her to think i care for her, for all of the reasons i wrote before.Any ideas?? (If you answer, remember that I'm in 8ºth grade) Reply to this Question
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reader, Zuni  +, writes (1 October 2010):
 As far as most girls go, they love it when guys do cute things for them, just small little things that are simple, yet creative. You can start by dropping settle hints to her (that can be as simple as a compliment. Making a girl feel good about herself will almost always catch her attention. Or ask her if she wants to go for a walk or hang out, if you have classes with her, try to study or do a partner project with her. You need to show her that you do care for her though, cause for all you know she might sort of like you but because you act like you don't care for her, she might not think that there is a chance with you. Finally, don't make up situations to just to talk to her, if she finds out that you lied then it will be harder for her to trust you. Find common ground between the two of you ( you can ask her friends what she likes to do, or even better just talk casual conversation about what she like, start simple and work your way up. Music, movies, shows, and books always have a good conversation, "Have you seen that new movie in theaters..." ) Just try to be yourself, and try to be comfortable when around you. good luck.
P.S. If you are feeling brave enough just ask her to go do something with you. Then you can talk to her as long as you want (try to make it somewhere public, but not school, like at a movie theater, or a popular park, that way she will be less uncomfortable than if she were alone where nobody is. that way you two are alone, but theres people in the background)
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reader, supahfly55 +, writes (1 October 2010):
 Okay first off all you have to do is ask one of her friends that you know well to ask her whether she likes you, she'll probably say yes (girls are desperate to)
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